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Should I date women before I’m fully recovered from erection problems?

Should you wait until your erection problems are fixed before you go out to meet women? This article talks about that and gives you a surprising answer.

Warning: there are images of scantily clad women here. If you are avoiding triggers (as I do) then defocus your eyes and skip over them. Got it?

Okay so let’s begin…

Ben had ED for about 10 years, since he was 23. Now at 33, we chatted and I asked him about his plans to meet women.

“No way,” he said, “I’m gonna wait until I’m fully recovered from the ED before I try that.”

Why not?

“I don’t want to have another failure. So I’ll wait until I’m really recovered.”

I told Ben that this is a mistake.

And I thought I’d tell you at the same time, as maybe you have thought about that and are waiting and maybe you’ll find this helpful too.

Sure, I understand: The idea of waiting until you’re “ready” has appeal.

You can see the path in your mind’s eye. You’ll do the solo activities in my courses (Raging Sexual Confidence, or Big Bang) and you’ll begin recovering and then when you are getting and keeping good erections, you’ll go out on the town and meet girls.

Most of all, you

Avoid the cycle of failure

 The cycle starts with the discovery, “hey my dick isn’t hard” and proceeds to testing, and trying, and failing. And then her “oh it’s okay, no problem” when you know it IS a problem, and perhaps a woman who isn’t as kind and acts and shows her disappointment.

Courtesy Of www.flickr.com/photos/mukhina/3840364331/

Courtesy Of www.flickr.com/photos/mukhina/3840364331/

Then the cycle of failure turns naturally into anxiety. Anxiety about whether you will or you won’t, and whether it will or it won’t…and then you have full blown performance anxiety.

The erection problems started, then the performance anxiety followed. Remember that. If you can get the performance back, the anxiety will naturally get better.

Okay, so

Should you wait until you are ready?

 I’ve watched thousands of guys come and go and try to get their desensitization fixed. (Don’t know that desensitization causes erection problems? Read here for how and why.)

And the guys who succeed are more often the guys who get some female attention sooner rather than later.

I mean, first of all, think about it. If you have gotten desensitized, you are probably not having a lot of action with a female in the first place. So avoiding women will certainly not fix that any time soon, right?

But more than that, there is the

Physiological reason for quicker and better recovery when you are meeting women

Our brains are wired for interaction with real women. When we get desensitized it can be from porn, poor masturbation habits, health problems, or often a combination.

Remember that desensitization is a real physiological problem. It isn’t “all in your head”. And the fix isn’t in your head either.

When you interact with real women, you begin getting your sensitivity to real women back. It’s a start. The more you interact, the more your brain churns out hormones such as oxytocin that make you feel good, secure, and also improve your erections including both the duration and the time between ejaculations (shortening it.)

 

And when you interact with real women you are satisfying the deepest needs we have in our reptile brains for companionship. That is tremendously rewarding. However often 

It doesn’t feel rewarding at first to get out there and meet real women

If you’ve been using porn, then real women will seem kind of boring. Or if a girl seems hot, you’ll see her in your mind’s eye in a porn scene of some kind. It takes awhile for that type of fantasy to fade away, but it does. And a good thing, because as long as you’re experiencing those types of fantasies often, you probably aren’t recovered yet.

brunette with cleavage small

And sex can seem flat, boring and uninteresting. That is, sex with a real woman as opposed to the three nymphettes spanking each other and….in those porn scenes…you get the idea…

It takes time to recover, and the more you spend time with real women, the quicker you will recover. And some guys don’t recover without this at all. It is essential for them, and maybe fore you.

So now I hear you ask, 

But what if she wants to have sex with me and I’m not ready yet for sex?

I know you don’t want to have another failure.

So here’s what you need to do. You need to take it slow. Spend some time in bed sleeping spooned together for a time or three, with sex off the table.

Can’t do this? Well keep trying. Show some masculine resolve. Some decisive goal-oriented behavior us guys are known for. Say “I am getting over some erection issues and the next few dates I want to sleep together and not have sex.”

Oh, what a sin that is! It so goes against today’s “hop into bed and fuck” culture, doesn’t it?

And what is she laughs in my face and says, “you’re kidding, I’m a horny girl and I’m interested in a guy pounding me with his salami good and hard and right now and if it’s not you I’m gonna find another guy.”

Well then, I say, Sayonara. Good knowing you. Next! They aren’t all going to like this.

And then you meet the girl who loves the idea…and loves you for being so confident…

But what of the girl who does like the idea?

“No guy has told me THAT before. Wow, you are honest, and confident to be so sure of yourself that you can tell me THAT.” She looks at you and feels a little weak and a little wet. You are HOT.

You’ll have a much better chance of a fantastic relationship when your woman is okay with this. And the sex will be much better when you have worked up each of your Oxytocin levels.

You certainly can do this “sleep together first” thing for the rest of your life, after you’ve recovered. It makes everything SO much better.  But…

…now don’t go and ruin it by trying to stick it in when you were the one who said, “let’s do it this way instead.”

So you sleep with her a few times, maybe give her a bit of oral (or not), and you will notice something very interesting and exciting.

You will notice that semis start coming back…morning wood sometimes (hey it’s been ages since that happened!). Maybe you get kind of excited when you see her and your dick gets hard just from looking into her eyes. Ain’t that a trip?

real girls are more fun when you avoid porn and don't get erectile dysfunction

And then…when you get semis and morning wood…you won’t have to worry about failing.

Meanwhile you can do “intercourse anywhere” entry while still soft and you can hang out in her vagina. Spend 30 minutes or two hours connected that way. How wonderful is that?

Because it’s THIS that heals the brain and leads to true recovery.

You’ve done the solo activities, helpful as those are…and now

It’s time to get out there and meet women

Throw away your fears and doubts. And get out there.

Are you ready? You’re not? Then now is the time to start. Either way, it’s time. And if you want to know where to start, then rely upon Factor X:  register for this free web training on how to meet a woman as soon as this weekend using Factor X to do the work practically for you.

And please leave a comment or question that I can answer, or we can talk about.

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Should I date women before I’m fully recovered from erection problems?

Should you wait until your erection problems are fixed before you go out to meet women? This article talks about that and gives you a surprising answer.

Warning: there are images of scantily clad women here. If you are avoiding triggers (as I do) then defocus your eyes and skip over them. Got it?

Okay so let’s begin…

Ben had ED for about 10 years, since he was 23. Now at 33, we chatted and I asked him about his plans to meet women.

“No way,” he said, “I’m gonna wait until I’m fully recovered from the ED before I try that.”

Why not?

“I don’t want to have another failure. So I’ll wait until I’m really recovered.”

I told Ben that this is a mistake.

And I thought I’d tell you at the same time, as maybe you have thought about that and are waiting and maybe you’ll find this helpful too.

Sure, I understand: The idea of waiting until you’re “ready” has appeal.

You can see the path in your mind’s eye. You’ll do the solo activities in my courses (Raging Sexual Confidence, or Big Bang) and you’ll begin recovering and then when you are getting and keeping good erections, you’ll go out on the town and meet girls.

Most of all, you

Avoid the cycle of failure

 The cycle starts with the discovery, “hey my dick isn’t hard” and proceeds to testing, and trying, and failing. And then her “oh it’s okay, no problem” when you know it IS a problem, and perhaps a woman who isn’t as kind and acts and shows her disappointment.

Courtesy Of www.flickr.com/photos/mukhina/3840364331/

Courtesy Of www.flickr.com/photos/mukhina/3840364331/

Then the cycle of failure turns naturally into anxiety. Anxiety about whether you will or you won’t, and whether it will or it won’t…and then you have full blown performance anxiety.

The erection problems started, then the performance anxiety followed. Remember that. If you can get the performance back, the anxiety will naturally get better.

Okay, so

Should you wait until you are ready?

 I’ve watched thousands of guys come and go and try to get their desensitization fixed. (Don’t know that desensitization causes erection problems? Read here for how and why.)

And the guys who succeed are more often the guys who get some female attention sooner rather than later.

I mean, first of all, think about it. If you have gotten desensitized, you are probably not having a lot of action with a female in the first place. So avoiding women will certainly not fix that any time soon, right?

But more than that, there is the

Physiological reason for quicker and better recovery when you are meeting women

Our brains are wired for interaction with real women. When we get desensitized it can be from porn, poor masturbation habits, health problems, or often a combination.

Remember that desensitization is a real physiological problem. It isn’t “all in your head”. And the fix isn’t in your head either.

When you interact with real women, you begin getting your sensitivity to real women back. It’s a start. The more you interact, the more your brain churns out hormones such as oxytocin that make you feel good, secure, and also improve your erections including both the duration and the time between ejaculations (shortening it.)

blonde girl let's meet women

And when you interact with real women you are satisfying the deepest needs we have in our reptile brains for companionship. That is tremendously rewarding. However often 

It doesn’t feel rewarding at first to get out there and meet real women

If you’ve been using porn, then real women will seem kind of boring. Or if a girl seems hot, you’ll see her in your mind’s eye in a porn scene of some kind. It takes awhile for that type of fantasy to fade away, but it does. And a good thing, because as long as you’re experiencing those types of fantasies often, you probably aren’t recovered yet.

brunette with cleavage small

And sex can seem flat, boring and uninteresting. That is, sex with a real woman as opposed to the three nymphettes spanking each other and….in those porn scenes…you get the idea…

It takes time to recover, and the more you spend time with real women, the quicker you will recover. And some guys don’t recover without this at all. It is essential for them, and maybe fore you.

So now I hear you ask, 

But what if she wants to have sex with me and I’m not ready yet for sex?

I know you don’t want to have another failure.

So here’s what you need to do. You need to take it slow. Spend some time in bed sleeping spooned together for a time or three, with sex off the table.

Can’t do this? Well keep trying. Show some masculine resolve. Some decisive goal-oriented behavior us guys are known for. Say “I am getting over some erection issues and the next few dates I want to sleep together and not have sex.”

Oh, what a sin that is! It so goes against today’s “hop into bed and fuck” culture, doesn’t it?

And what is she laughs in my face and says, “you’re kidding, I’m a horny girl and I’m interested in a guy pounding me with his salami good and hard and right now and if it’s not you I’m gonna find another guy.”

Well then, I say, Sayonara. Good knowing you. Next! They aren’t all going to like this.

And then you meet the girl who loves the idea…and loves you for being so confident…

But what of the girl who does like the idea?

“No guy has told me THAT before. Wow, you are honest, and confident to be so sure of yourself that you can tell me THAT.” She looks at you and feels a little weak and a little wet. You are HOT.

You’ll have a much better chance of a fantastic relationship when your woman is okay with this. And the sex will be much better when you have worked up each of your Oxytocin levels.

You certainly can do this “sleep together first” thing for the rest of your life, after you’ve recovered. It makes everything SO much better.  But…

…now don’t go and ruin it by trying to stick it in when you were the one who said, “let’s do it this way instead.”

So you sleep with her a few times, maybe give her a bit of oral (or not), and you will notice something very interesting and exciting.

You will notice that semis start coming back…morning wood sometimes (hey it’s been ages since that happened!). Maybe you get kind of excited when you see her and your dick gets hard just from looking into her eyes. Ain’t that a trip?

real girls are more fun when you avoid porn and don't get erectile dysfunction

And then…when you get semis and morning wood…you won’t have to worry about failing.

Meanwhile you can do “intercourse anywhere” entry while still soft and you can hang out in her vagina. Spend 30 minutes or two hours connected that way. How wonderful is that?

Because it’s THIS that heals the brain and leads to true recovery.

You’ve done the solo activities, helpful as those are…and now

It’s time to get out there and meet women

Throw away your fears and doubts. And get out there.

Are you ready? You’re not? Then now is the time to start. Either way, it’s time. And if you want to know where to start, then rely upon Factor X:  register for this free web training on how to meet a woman as soon as this weekend using Factor X to do the work practically for you.

And please leave a comment or question that I can answer, or we can talk about.

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Should you masturbate and fantasize about your girlfriend?

Gary asked me recently, “Matt, I keep a photo of my girlfriend in my wallet. Sometimes I think about her and fantasize. Sometimes I take out her photo and put it in front of me, like at the gym while I’m doing my spinning exercise. Is this bad? Will this set me back in my recovery into fantastic sex that I want?”

In this article I want to answer this question posed by Gary.

Gary’s doing pretty well. He’s made big inroads with his testosterone and the programs in my Testosterone Rewind course are helping him fix his diet, his supplement regimen and his lifestyle so his blood sugars are reaching a normal level.

All good.

four pretty black women

But Gary still suffers desensitization.

1. He doesn’t feel that much in his penis.

2. He often has sex with his girlfriend and can’t reach orgasm.

3. He often doesn’t get hard. It’s a crapshoot whether he will or he won’t. And often when he does get hard, the erection suddenly disappears at the worst moment.

These are all symptoms of desensitization.

But in this article we’re talking recovery and how fantasy can stop you from recovering from desensitization. I have mentioned many times that

The reptile brain can’t tell the difference between reality and fantasy

If Gary is wired to fantasy, he will be making his desensitization worse by fantasizing.

Why does fantasy hurt us? And isn’t it perfectly normal to fantasize?

Desensitization is a real, physiological problem. So think of another real physiological problem — I can can eat potato chips or an orange and it’s no big deal. There is a good amount of sugar and starch in these — but for me, it wouldn’t trigger a blood sugar problem.

But if I have had type two diabetes, I should avoid these foods because they will hurt my blood sugars and cause problems.

If you take a guy without desensitization, yeah he can fantasize. But for a guy who is recovering from desensitization, fantasy will hurt his recovery.

That’s because for instance in Gary’s case

Fantasy has wired his brain to respond to fantasy more than to a real woman

The brain kind of works like this: Brain cells fire, a rewarding spurt of dopamine makes the cells go “wow this is GREAT” and then you have feedback loop set up that will tend to want to continue that behavior that resulted in the rewarding dopamine spurt.

Dopamine is part of the brain’s reward circuitry, and the dopamine is what feels good about buying a new car, fucking a beautiful woman, getting a new iPad, or eating another cookie. It’s what makes heroin and cocaine so short-term rewarding.

We need dopamine to get out of bed in the morning. I love my dopamine. It makes me want my woman all the time. I love that.

But when you have become desensitized, your nerve cells fire and you get that dopamine reward from something OTHER than real sex with a real woman.

girlfriend what a pretty girl

And the more often these nerves fire, and the dopamine surges, the more the brain gets carried away from being sensitive to real sex with a real woman. It gets to prefer the rush from porn, or fantasy…

That’s why practically

99% of all men who suffer desensitization need to keep away from fantasy

They need to get the brain cells firing with rewarding dopamine that happens from real sex with real women.

Now, there is such a thing as “good fantasy” and here’s what it is. It’s thinking about your girlfriend or your wife and feeling really good. Really, really good.

I can close my eyes and think of my wife and feel really good. The way I do when I see her in person. 

I don’t fantasize a sex scene with her. I don’t fantasize a porn scene with her. It just feels really good, kind of dreamy. I feel really good.

And that’s how you can tell if a fantasy is bad or good. In general, any fantasy that makes you feel horny, or visualize a sex scene, should be avoided.

Just thinking of your woman and feeling really good — that’s good fantasy.

But for awhile, it may be difficult to have “good fantasy” so you may have to avoid all fantasy

That’s why guys in recovery shouldn’t be masturbating for awhile. The masturbation habits often involve fantasy and porn scenes. Whether the porn scenes are in a guy’s brain or on the computer screen, it’s all the same to the reptile brain.

The reptile brain doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality, remember?

 girl looking down at window

Once you recover, you can masturbate generally. Unless it leads you back into porn (if you had a porn habit before.) But for awhile, you need to focus on recovering your sensitivity. And that means, avoiding all fantasy of every kind that leads you down the road to sex scenes and sex fantasies.

After you’ve fully recovered, then the fantasy is delicious and wonderful, so long as it’s the “good” kind, that makes you feel wonderful, and not the “bad” kind, that makes you feel horny

After a sex fantasy, you’ll feel horny for at least 30 minutes. That’s the time it takes for the spurt of sex hormones to subside in your system. So for that period, at least, you’ll be more prone to relapsing to masturbation and porn.

But if you have the “good” fantasy, which is not really a fantasy at all, but more a feeling, then you won’t get a horny feeling and you won’t be visualizing a sex scene. 

How to tell the difference between good and bad fantasy

Bad fantasy:

1. Involves visualizing sex scenes

2. Leads to you feeling horny

3. Leads to you wanting to rub one out

4. Leads you to feeling like you want something you don’t have

Good fantasy:

1. Involves thinking of the person you love

2. Feeling the love you have for her and feeling really good

3. You feel kind of sleepy and wonderful all over

In fact, it’s a great way to get to sleep, to think of her in that way. It makes you feel really great and sets up your sleep for good dreams and waking up really rested.

girlfriend brunette latina

But be careful. Make sure you are ready for this before you try it. For the moment, until your dick is fully back into action and you have your full feeling and sensitivity back, maybe you should steer clear.

And if you are looking for that incredible gorgeous girlfriend, or wanting to get back into the game, register for our exclusive new  Factor X Girlfriend This Weekend web training. You’ll discover how to get a gorgeous girlfriend even if you lack sexual confidence…

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And PLEASE leave a question or comment about your situation, or about what you have discovered. All the guys here in the Brotherhood (only 0.0001% ever comment) will benefit! And I appreciate it as it tells me I’m on the right track and keeps me going, to be honest. Thank you. 

 

 

Wow this is going to be big

This is kind of in response to guys telling me,

“Hey Matt, I tend to not be able to keep things going the way I want to. I just give up, or I have a relapse, or I don’t keep on the path I’ve set for myself.”

If this is you then don’t give up.

You’re trying to use self-discipline and that doesn’t work.

Self discipline is always in short supply

Because self discipline calls for willpower…and willpower doesn’t last very long. It wears thin real fast.

So if you haven’t been able to get where you want to be yet, perhaps it’s because you’re trying to rely upon discipline and willpower.

very sexy blonde girl in underwear

And they don’t really work.

What works instead is to

Build a habit of success

Habits are continuously being formed.

Good habits and bad ones.

You just do something for a short while, and the brain cells required to do that thing start with very “intense” brain power required, but quickly move to “more automatic and less intense” brain power required brain cells. 

Remember when you learned to drive? You would sweat and it was tense and so difficult you’d feel drained when you got out of the car.

Now that you know how to drive, you magically get out of the car and don’t even remember how you drove there!

The brain cells required at first were the very intense, high energy ones. But once you learned how to drive, the “easier” brain cells took over, the ones requiring less energy and less conscious thought.

You’ve made how to drive into a habit.

my fantasy girl

Same thing with sex, and everything to do with that. You can build a habit of successful sex, wonderful sex, sex that will curl your toes and hers too…

And once you do that, you won’t ever have a problem again.

It requires you to fix desensitization and learn some new habits.

That means building and reinforcing the habit every day

What you want is to build a habit of success. So you can begin using that habit to guide you every day, every week, without having to think about it.

This brings me to what I’m working on with the publishing company, Calworth Glenford. 

I will be able to talk about it shortly. Watch your email for the details. 

I’m thinking this will be the biggest thing that we’ve ever done. 

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How long before my dick is hard and I can have great sex?

 

Here’s how to determine how long it may take to recover your full male performance 

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Any Idea how long the process takes ie from dead to normal Im going to quit viewing all porn and go back to reading non porn mags at night.

No wife anymore she passed away fom cancer over a year ago, but no lady friends either.

I need a lady in my life and sure can’t get one like this.

 

Any and all help will be appreciated.

Thanks

“Jim”

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I get a lot of emails every day and posts and Jim’s stands out for being super clear. “Help, I’m willing to do what it takes, but how long will this go on?”

In general 

The longer you’ve had the problem the longer it will take to fix it

However, if you’ve had a problem for 10 years, it won’t take 10 years to fix.

It may take weeks or months. It usually does not take years. Often it can be loads better in 3 or 4 weeks, and totally better in months.

I’ll tell you what the variables are so you can judge your own situation.

If you had this as a young man, it will take longer to get over it

The worst cases are for guys who discovered porn when they were boys. Some as young as 5 or 6.

It is a myth of course that boys and girls don’t have sexual feelings even at a young age. 

I can clearly remember playing outside when I was probably 5 or 6 and having sexual feelings.

girl lying down

And I began masturbating and using porn even before puberty. 

It took me longer to recover from erectile dysfunction and sexual problems because I got into this very early.

But the fact is that

If the first pussies you saw were on video, you really have to work hard to undo the damage

Young men today, say under about 30 years old, are really in a sucky situation. They grew up masturbating to video porn.

I didn’t have much video porn growing up, so the porn I used was less intense than video porn.

But if I had grown up with a lot of video porn, I’d have been in much worse trouble.

Video porn, especially today’s tube sites and cam sites, have thousands of women (see the earlier post 1000 Vaginas) and they desensitize the brain much worse and the damage takes much longer to fix.

The reason for this is that our early sexual experiences set up the first nerve pathways in our brain for enjoyment of sex.

Further sexual adventures deepen these early pathways.

If our early experience was with 1000 vaginas on a computer screen (or penises, or whips, or whatever it is, everything’s out there) then we will be missing the nerve pathways for healthy, sensitizing sex with a real woman and a real pussy. That just won’t excite our cock and get it hard for very long.

And this is not “all in your head” either — it’s real, physiological, an addiction that is actually far worse than addiction to heroin or freebase.

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So if you lack those early pathways for real women, you will have to work much harder and your recovery will take far longer.

But what about middle aged and older guys?

Yes it takes longer to recover if you have health problems

The most common problems guys have is symptoms of:

  • high blood pressure
  • overweight
  • acid relux
  • snoring
  • asthma
  • bowel and gut problems
  • depression and anxiety

 I see some heads nodding, guys saying, “yeah I have all those things!”

Well, the news here is, you CAN recover and have great sex even with those health problems. 

(I found that one thing super helpful is to get over these problems by naturally raising your testosterone levels. This system of raising your T naturally doesn’t involve drugs, expensive supplements or anything like that. I put it into a 4 hour course T Rewind that you can get and that will help you over these health issues.)

But if you have those health issues, the good news is, they don’t really stop recovery in most cases. I have found that

Guys who have major trauma, surgeries or procedures will take a bit longer to recover

 

Transplants, heart attack, cancer treatment…the docs do NOT do a good job at all of warning guys.

All major procedures on men should carry a warning: will make your erections soft or non-existent, may remove your sex drive, may hurt your ability to have sex for months or years.

swimming man and woman

Fortunately, the methods that I have outlined in my courses work for guys who have had major surgeries. These methods (which I’ll summarize at the end of this article) all work for getting rid of desensitization.

Because

Desensitization is the real culprit: fix desensitization and your erectile problems get better

This was discovered quite a long time ago. Before the drug companies realized they could collect a tax every time a guy wanted to have sex. Viagra was the first, but then the “me too” drugs came in, basically doing the same thing. It amounts to a tax on sex…so naturally they convince men they “need” this.

The tax is around $10 and the pills kind of work, or really work, for about 60% of men. They do not work for the other 40%, and they also have a terrible side effect —

The ED pills often make sensitization worse

So they are a treatment that makes the problem worse and many guys find that after a few years, the pills no longer work at all.

Plus, the ED pills don’t bring back the pleasure. They don’t bring back the sensitivity. They don’t make you feel more than you do.

They often make you feel less.

So if you’ve been down this road of the pills, and they’ve stopped working, its’ time to

Get serious about fixing desensitization, the cause of male performance problems.

When you fix your desensitization, you will get good erections that last a long time. And you won’t grind away, thrusting in and out with little feeling.

No, you’ll feel more than you have for 20 years or 30 years, maybe more than ever before (I feel more today than I recall even when I was a teenager.)

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But you have to stop believing that there is a shortcut. The path is clear but it does take your commitment.

1. Stop masturbation for awhile

2. Stop porn for good.

3. See if you can’t give up the pills for a bit (the ED pills I mean.)

4. Stop fantasy as best you can

5. Go through the “flatline” withdrawal stage

6. Emerge on the other side with morning erections again and the ability to love and make love

And the essential part is, if you have a woman, to spend all the time possible cuddling, kissing, holding hands, naked together, as that will build up Oxytocin and speed up your recovery.

You can be like this man:

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I’ve been following your advice for maybe a month now and have been practicing Karezza for maybe two months.

The member is working better then it ever has before.

My wife, who says she doesn’t enjoy Karezza, is up for intercourse ANYTIME and has taken to seducing me if we go more then a day without having intercourse.

This is very confusing but what the heck, it’s very wonderful too! I think the concept you teach regarding focusing on your self was a game changer for us.

My wife is very generous and really knows how to give pleasure.

Now I just relax into it and let her know what a delightful lover she is and how much I enjoy our sexual relationship and how happy I am with our new love life and her.

She’s 55 and I’m 66.

We’ve been together for 29 years.

I can’t speak for her but my half of our love life is better than anything I’ve ever experienced before. So good that I feel guilty about feeling so happy!

The sensitivity level of my penis is higher then it has ever been before and yes I get erections too just thinking about my wife.

I don’t do any porn and don’t masterbate at all any more.

I have also asked my wife to touch me VERY gently when she touches my penis, she has made penis touching into an art form, kind of like OM ing.

Well, I guess I’ve taken up enough of your time telling you how wonderful my new found love life is. I’m looking forward to more of your classes, the few that I have seen so far have been life changers.

–Senior from Minnesota

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The big ingredient in this is always going to be building up Oxytocin. Oxytocin is the true hormone that builds love and erections and great sex. I’ll have more on that in another article.

And in the meantime, the publishing company just caved in. We’ve had so many folks who complained and said they couldn’t watch the webinar due to schedules and so forth, and they’ve opened it up just for perhaps today. Go here to watch the “From Dead Down There To Raging Sexual Confidence” webinar while we take advantage of this short reprieve.

Meanwhile, write out your situation or question and let’s all learn from each other.

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