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Regaining your male sexual power through intention

Welcome to the path of what I call sexual prosperity.

Many men are rich. But few men are sexually prosperous. Few men have as much sex as they want, sex with connection and sex that gives the most amazing pleasure.

I’m going to show you the path from where you are, to sexual prosperity. It took me many years, decades even, to find this path and then refine it with thousands of men participating.

What you are getting now is the actual path that to sexual prosperity that is proven to work.

I know you want this. And to help you get to what you want, I want to get you onto this path.

And that starts with a decision “I’m going to take this path.”

So I’m going to invite you to go on this path with me, and in this report I’ll spell out why you should go with me, where it will take you, and what the steps are on the path.

Briefly: why take this path to sexual prosperity.

Warning: It’s not like taking a magic pill

Pills don’t work for very long. Sometimes Viagra or Cialis or Levitra work for years, but gradually they stop working.

Other times, the pills work, but they give a guy a flushed feeling or side effects.

And other times, guys say “I want to be spontaneous. I don’t want to plan in advance whenever I’m going to have sex.”

And still other times, for 40% of guys, the pills just don’t work.

I wish there was a pill that really worked for everyone.

Perhaps the worst thing about the pills is that they continue the core cause of erection problems. The problems get worse but the pills disguise the problem. And one day, the pill that worked, doesn’t work anymore.

My path is not a pill. It doesn’t work instantly either.

This is ONLY for guys who are willing to do what it takes. Who aren’t looking for an instant fix, who aren’t taking the easiest way out (a way that doesn’t work anyway).

If you’re happy injecting a syringe into your penis, or relying on Big Pharma, this path isn’t for you.

This path is for you if you have often felt that your sexual being is core to who you are. That being a man means fixing things, moving towards goals, making things better. And if you are a man willing to follow a long term plan that works instead of an instant fix that doesn’t.

Because my path isn’t an instant fix.

It’s like working out

My path has results but they accrue and accumulate over time. You work out once, you don’t get results except sore muscles. You work out over days, weeks and months, and you get great results.

My path is more like working out. It gets great results but you need to follow the path and keep doing the program.

My program involves giving up on masturbation, fantasy, porn and what I call sexual triggers. That is tough to give up. It is very tough. How long have you gone in your life without masturbation? I never went more than a week before I started this, since age 10.

Once you start on this path, you’ll want to quit. It is very hard especially at first. And most guys will relapse. They’ll give up on it for awhile, and then start back on.

I think I will give you the path now, so you know what is in store if you decide to join me.

The eight stages of sexual abundance

Stage 1 – quick results

You’ll begin by following two of our most life changing and simple recommendations…and you’ll feel better. Some guys report they feel great. They get erections sometimes. They get morning wood sometimes. They feel more horny and more attractive…

Stage 1 is important because “the journey begins with a single step.”

And now you rapidly move to Stage 2…


Stage 2 – flatlining, feeling blah, wanting to give up already

At this stage, all the gains fall apart. Your dick feels dead. Your mood falls. You feel more down, maybe even depressed, and life is like going through the motions.

I wish I could tell you that it is possible to avoid Stage 2, but I don’t think it is.

I’m always going to be honest with you. Stage 2 sucks.

It can last a few weeks or a few months. Fortunately, you can move to Stage 3 even while you’re struggling with Stage 2…it doesn’t stop you from moving forward in most cases at all…


Stage 3 – relationships start to radically improve

If you are in a relationship, for some weird reason it gets better. Maybe there is no sex yet, but it gets better. A lot better. Hugely better.

The enemy of relationships is neediness and desperation, and even though it’s early days yet, the neediness and desperation start draining away from your life.

You don’t have to do anything special to make this happen — you just begin observing how much more secure you feel already.

If you are looking for a girlfriend, girls begin to eye you, give you flirty signals, and you find yourself responding. Even shy guys find that girls are approaching them and they feel more attraction from women and more initiating behavior from women.


Stage 4 – sensation begins getting better and better

At some point you will realize that you haven’t felt much in the way of sensation for a long time. I call this numb dick because I like simple terms that spell it out.

Numb dick is what you’ve been suffering for maybe decades without knowing it. Poor masturbation habits, porn, fantasy, sexual triggers, health issues…all these contribute to causing numb dick.

You don’t realize how little you’ve been feeling until Stage 4 when it starts coming back. I recommend everyone who is following my path (which is called the Cook Protocol by the way) focus first on sensation as they experience things coming back.

Erections might not be better, but at this stage, they may not improve. But what improves first is feeling, sensitivity, sensation.

If you are a guy who has been suffering from premature ejaculation, you’ll find that the same holds true for you — what the experts didn’t tell you is that your problem is also one of reduced sensation and sensitivity. Oddly enough, when you focus on sensation you can last longer.

And for guys who grind away without coming, who suffer delayed ejaculation — they begin feeling more and more in their penis and in their whole bodies.


Stage 5 – erections begin getting better

If you have faithfully followed my Cook Protocol at this stage you will begin experiencing better erections. Spontaneous woodies. Erections that last a longer and longer time.

Now, this won’t necessarily happen with masturbation erections. It isn’t supposed to. It will happen with real women, real girls you are exposed to, and it will happen when sex is on the table. Which is nice!


Stage 6 – confidence with other guys begins to improve, a little at first, then a lot

Here you begin gaining massive confidence with other men. You look them in the eye and they look away. They respect you more, sometimes even fear you a little.

You notice small changes at first…when you walk into a room you get more respect. You can feel it…and if you are starting a business or working on your own you draw clients to you more easily. You just know it’s working.

You begin noticing that you are naturally using a slightly deeper but much more masculine and commanding voice.

You hear yourself talk and it sounds like “the new you” not the old you.

It’s amazing how you find that things are yours for the taking — not taking in a selfish way, but taking in a way that others go “yes, yes, take it, it’s yours, you deserve it.”

You begin realizing people WANT you to take charge, and you want to take charge too. This is what I call the “perks of leadership” and they are yours for the taking now…


Stage 7 – new powerful direction in your life

In Stage 6 you will feel more goal driven, more loaded with purpose and direction. Maybe before you were living in fear of missing out, and incapable of any major decisions without constant second-guessing yourself.

Now that is changing…you feel yourself more like a weathervane pointing in the direction of the wind. You are focused now, narrowly pursuing something that you know you want. It was there all the time — why didn’t you see it and act on it with the purpose you have now?

The past is the past, now you are taking directed focused action and ANYTHING, literally anything, feels possible.

Where was this purpose and direction all this time? It was buried in your loss of masculine male power. Now it’s bright and alive burning in you all the time. You feel it all the time.


Stage 8 – you experience 30 or 60 minute sex at any time you want

Now you are having sex for 30 minutes or longer, whenever you want. And as you go through Stage 7, you find that you feel more and more sensation. It develops more and more over months. Within 6 months of Stage 7, you will find you look back and wonder at how little you used to feel.

The connection you feel is something else. It’s not “just sex.” This is powerful connection with your woman.

And if you are a “several woman man” (most men aren’t), you maintain this connection with several girlfriends, without drama and without stress. You find it easy to be impeccably honest and you aren’t trying to tell any girl what she wants to hear anymore.

If you are in a relationship, your connection makes the sex so incredible as to be hard to believe.

You are learning how to bring the pleasure up into your whole body. The pleasure now during the 30 or 60 minutes is more than it used to be when you were experiencing orgasm. It’s that good. It’s so good that you don’t want it to ever end.


Stage 9 – massive abundance in the rest of your life

Now, because you have sexual prosperity, material prosperity becomes yours. Our sex drives are so key that when we unblock our sexual center this way, the world powerfully rearranges itself to bring us all sorts of good things.

You may at this point have a girlfriend or maybe you’re still married. Either way you are totally attracted to your woman in a way you never experienced before. And this attraction grows and grows and never ends until your last moment on earth.

It’s this strong attraction to her, and this strong drive you have, and focus, that all comes out of sexual abundance and sexual prosperity.

That’s the 9 Stage Path, what you will be on, if you accept my invitation to join me.

But like always, there is a price you have to pay if you join me.

The price is to follow my Cook Protocol as faithfully as you can. That means no masturbation, no porn, no fantasy, no sexual triggers…and it means practicing my solo activities that bring things back.

The men who succeed are the men who remain engaged with me and others in this path. If you’re out on your own, alone, and not engaging with me and other men, your chances of success are very small.

The successful men remain engaged because this becomes front and center the most important part of their life.

I promise you that I will never ask you to do something that you can’t do. It will always be possible. But what you will supply is action.

There are two kinds of men in this world: Action takers and couch potatoes

You are one or the other. You take action, or you don’t. I can’t make you take action. I can provide you the path, and engage with you so you stay on it, and help you through it. But only if you actually work at it.

I am sorry that I can’t promise you a magic pill. We already went over that. So you will have to work at it. You will have to ask yourself, am I willing to take action on this path?

But if you don’t…

These sexual problems usually always get worse and worse..

Men who have occasional problems find that the occasional becomes frequent.

Semi hard becomes soft.

Flaccid once becomes flaccid all the time.

It’s all because you are still doing the things that are leading to the problem being worse. You are doing it unintentionally, without knowledge of what you are doing, but it is the things you are doing that make it worse.

There are millions of men who have this problem and it is getting worse and worse. They are eventually going to follow the Cook Protocol, but why shouldn’t you be one who does it now rather than a year from now? Think about how it will be a decade from now, when the problem is even worse?

And I know you are someone who wants proof

I can’t prove it will work for YOU. But I can prove it works if you follow the path. I can prove it because I can show you what others have done. And I can show you results that will keep you focused on your path.

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It starts with intention

Here’s where you probably are. You aren’t getting good erections. Or you go soft once inside. Or you have premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation problems. Perhaps you feel your testosterone is low.

Now, where do you want to go?

What kind of man do you want to become?

I’ve helped over 12,000 men like yourself go from where you are to a place where sex is easy and automatic. A place where they are more attractive to women. A place where they can have sex for 30 minutes or an hour whenever they want.

But all these men had to do one thing. They had to decide on this path.

My path is not an easy one. But then you are not a man who demands everything be instant, easy and free. You wouldn’t be here if you were that kind of man.

So, what you have to do now is decide:

1. I am going to follow this path and see where it leads…I am going to stick to the Cook Protocol and get better.

2. I am going to move on and not do anything. I am going to just hope and pray the problem gets better, or try one more supplement, or one more pill, or keep taking the shots, and hope it all works out.

What is your choice?

And what if you’re saying…

“I’m skeptical…show me the proof”

It’s healthy to be skeptical about some things, such as a pill or supplement.

But if you are skeptical about my Cook Protocol, then you are not likely to succeed.

It will be a long time before the drug companies allow any real research to be done on the Cook Protocol.

It will happen eventually — but it won’t happen for another decade or two.

Meanwhile, don’t you want sexual prosperity? The key is to commit right now and decide on this path for yourself.

You have to decide to commit totally and completely.

Because as I already explained to you, the path is not easy — and if you are already skeptical you won’t want to bother because you will become discouraged almost immediately.

Then, you will be right back to where you are now. Except a day older. And things will be a little worse.

So I highly recommend you go into this with 100% intention to stay on this path. Expect it to get difficult. And right now, close your eyes and commit. Say “I am staying on this path. I can get sexual prosperity for myself simply by staying on this path. I WILL stay on this path. I am already on the road to sexual prosperity and prosperity in every area of my life.”






Turn Eternal Crappiness Into Eternal Happiness

Terri and Saul, Terri and Saul, how wonderful are you all.

How they met kind of by accident

How Terri looked at Saul and saw this total man of her dreams

How Saul looked at Terri and instantly knew, “I want her”

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How they fucked like rabbits

How mad they were for each other

The time Terri did ____

The other time Saul did ____

How the kids came

How Terri got into her career

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How Saul got into his golfing buddies, fishing and the bars after work

How they realized it had been a month since they had sex

How they vowed to try things again as if it was the old days

How they had some frank and honest talks

How that felt good

How that didn’t work for very long

How time went by

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How Terri gained weight and looked kind of sallow and needed more makeup and had bad periods and then no periods at all

How Saul was losing his hair and not feeling like a man much anymore and didn’t like the pot belly when he looked in the mirror, the pot belly his father had had and that he swore he’d never have

How they realized it was several months since they had sex but they were okay with that (actually Terri realized, Saul had been keeping absolutely careful track of each day)

How Saul one day looked at Terri in the morning in bed next to him and realized he just didn’t find her attractive at all anymore

How Terri basked in the attention of this new guy at work who was selling them something, lunches with him and then other stuff

How Saul and Terri talked honestly one morning, and then again, and then again…endless talks…

How Saul’s willie didn’t work half the time with Terri

How Saul felt hardly anything anyway

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How Saul was going to try to test his manhood again with a girl he met after work

But how Saul didn’t because he was scared of failure

And how Saul came to me and asked me if there was any hope

And what I told Saul

And how he agreed to try it

And how they both tried it for 3 weeks

And how Saul changed…to surprisingly devastatingly totally in love with Terri again

How they started making love two or three times a day

How they realized they could live this way forever and wanted to until the day they died

How Terri’s girlfriends started to remark on her losing weight, glowing, being happy, looking years younger

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How Saul found that he was growing some of his lost hair back and his belly was no longer so fat

How Saul felt like a total stud now, able to nail any girl, but only wanting to nail Terri

How Saul felt so blessed in abundance having the best sex of his life for 30 minutes or longer every day, sometimes twice a day, with Terri, the only woman he ever wanted

How Saul began attracting abundance in his life on other levels — 

How women fell all over Saul whereever he went even though he had eyes only for Terri

How Terri became more and more beautiful

How Saul realized he was the luckiest man alive and woke up grateful every day and had sex with Terri once, twice sometimes even three times most days…and the best sex either of them had ever had, by a country mile…

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Should you masturbate and fantasize about your girlfriend?

Gary asked me recently, “Matt, I keep a photo of my girlfriend in my wallet. Sometimes I think about her and fantasize. Sometimes I take out her photo and put it in front of me, like at the gym while I’m doing my spinning exercise. Is this bad? Will this set me back in my recovery into fantastic sex that I want?”

In this article I want to answer this question posed by Gary.

Gary’s doing pretty well. He’s made big inroads with his testosterone and the programs in my Testosterone Rewind course are helping him fix his diet, his supplement regimen and his lifestyle so his blood sugars are reaching a normal level.

All good.

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But Gary still suffers desensitization.

1. He doesn’t feel that much in his penis.

2. He often has sex with his girlfriend and can’t reach orgasm.

3. He often doesn’t get hard. It’s a crapshoot whether he will or he won’t. And often when he does get hard, the erection suddenly disappears at the worst moment.

These are all symptoms of desensitization.

But in this article we’re talking recovery and how fantasy can stop you from recovering from desensitization. I have mentioned many times that

The reptile brain can’t tell the difference between reality and fantasy

If Gary is wired to fantasy, he will be making his desensitization worse by fantasizing.

Why does fantasy hurt us? And isn’t it perfectly normal to fantasize?

Desensitization is a real, physiological problem. So think of another real physiological problem — I can can eat potato chips or an orange and it’s no big deal. There is a good amount of sugar and starch in these — but for me, it wouldn’t trigger a blood sugar problem.

But if I have had type two diabetes, I should avoid these foods because they will hurt my blood sugars and cause problems.

If you take a guy without desensitization, yeah he can fantasize. But for a guy who is recovering from desensitization, fantasy will hurt his recovery.

That’s because for instance in Gary’s case

Fantasy has wired his brain to respond to fantasy more than to a real woman

The brain kind of works like this: Brain cells fire, a rewarding spurt of dopamine makes the cells go “wow this is GREAT” and then you have feedback loop set up that will tend to want to continue that behavior that resulted in the rewarding dopamine spurt.

Dopamine is part of the brain’s reward circuitry, and the dopamine is what feels good about buying a new car, fucking a beautiful woman, getting a new iPad, or eating another cookie. It’s what makes heroin and cocaine so short-term rewarding.

We need dopamine to get out of bed in the morning. I love my dopamine. It makes me want my woman all the time. I love that.

But when you have become desensitized, your nerve cells fire and you get that dopamine reward from something OTHER than real sex with a real woman.

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And the more often these nerves fire, and the dopamine surges, the more the brain gets carried away from being sensitive to real sex with a real woman. It gets to prefer the rush from porn, or fantasy…

That’s why practically

99% of all men who suffer desensitization need to keep away from fantasy

They need to get the brain cells firing with rewarding dopamine that happens from real sex with real women.

Now, there is such a thing as “good fantasy” and here’s what it is. It’s thinking about your girlfriend or your wife and feeling really good. Really, really good.

I can close my eyes and think of my wife and feel really good. The way I do when I see her in person. 

I don’t fantasize a sex scene with her. I don’t fantasize a porn scene with her. It just feels really good, kind of dreamy. I feel really good.

And that’s how you can tell if a fantasy is bad or good. In general, any fantasy that makes you feel horny, or visualize a sex scene, should be avoided.

Just thinking of your woman and feeling really good — that’s good fantasy.

But for awhile, it may be difficult to have “good fantasy” so you may have to avoid all fantasy

That’s why guys in recovery shouldn’t be masturbating for awhile. The masturbation habits often involve fantasy and porn scenes. Whether the porn scenes are in a guy’s brain or on the computer screen, it’s all the same to the reptile brain.

The reptile brain doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality, remember?

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Once you recover, you can masturbate generally. Unless it leads you back into porn (if you had a porn habit before.) But for awhile, you need to focus on recovering your sensitivity. And that means, avoiding all fantasy of every kind that leads you down the road to sex scenes and sex fantasies.

After you’ve fully recovered, then the fantasy is delicious and wonderful, so long as it’s the “good” kind, that makes you feel wonderful, and not the “bad” kind, that makes you feel horny

After a sex fantasy, you’ll feel horny for at least 30 minutes. That’s the time it takes for the spurt of sex hormones to subside in your system. So for that period, at least, you’ll be more prone to relapsing to masturbation and porn.

But if you have the “good” fantasy, which is not really a fantasy at all, but more a feeling, then you won’t get a horny feeling and you won’t be visualizing a sex scene. 

How to tell the difference between good and bad fantasy

Bad fantasy:

1. Involves visualizing sex scenes

2. Leads to you feeling horny

3. Leads to you wanting to rub one out

4. Leads you to feeling like you want something you don’t have

Good fantasy:

1. Involves thinking of the person you love

2. Feeling the love you have for her and feeling really good

3. You feel kind of sleepy and wonderful all over

In fact, it’s a great way to get to sleep, to think of her in that way. It makes you feel really great and sets up your sleep for good dreams and waking up really rested.

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But be careful. Make sure you are ready for this before you try it. For the moment, until your dick is fully back into action and you have your full feeling and sensitivity back, maybe you should steer clear.

And if you are looking for that incredible gorgeous girlfriend, or wanting to get back into the game, register for our exclusive new  Factor X Girlfriend This Weekend web training. You’ll discover how to get a gorgeous girlfriend even if you lack sexual confidence…


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And PLEASE leave a question or comment about your situation, or about what you have discovered. All the guys here in the Brotherhood (only 0.0001% ever comment) will benefit! And I appreciate it as it tells me I’m on the right track and keeps me going, to be honest. Thank you. 



Wow this is going to be big

This is kind of in response to guys telling me,

“Hey Matt, I tend to not be able to keep things going the way I want to. I just give up, or I have a relapse, or I don’t keep on the path I’ve set for myself.”

If this is you then don’t give up.

You’re trying to use self-discipline and that doesn’t work.

Self discipline is always in short supply

Because self discipline calls for willpower…and willpower doesn’t last very long. It wears thin real fast.

So if you haven’t been able to get where you want to be yet, perhaps it’s because you’re trying to rely upon discipline and willpower.

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And they don’t really work.

What works instead is to

Build a habit of success

Habits are continuously being formed.

Good habits and bad ones.

You just do something for a short while, and the brain cells required to do that thing start with very “intense” brain power required, but quickly move to “more automatic and less intense” brain power required brain cells. 

Remember when you learned to drive? You would sweat and it was tense and so difficult you’d feel drained when you got out of the car.

Now that you know how to drive, you magically get out of the car and don’t even remember how you drove there!

The brain cells required at first were the very intense, high energy ones. But once you learned how to drive, the “easier” brain cells took over, the ones requiring less energy and less conscious thought.

You’ve made how to drive into a habit.

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Same thing with sex, and everything to do with that. You can build a habit of successful sex, wonderful sex, sex that will curl your toes and hers too…

And once you do that, you won’t ever have a problem again.

It requires you to fix desensitization and learn some new habits.

That means building and reinforcing the habit every day

What you want is to build a habit of success. So you can begin using that habit to guide you every day, every week, without having to think about it.

This brings me to what I’m working on with the publishing company, Calworth Glenford. 

I will be able to talk about it shortly. Watch your email for the details. 

I’m thinking this will be the biggest thing that we’ve ever done. 


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