Wow this is going to be big
This is kind of in response to guys telling me,
“Hey Matt, I tend to not be able to keep things going the way I want to. I just give up, or I have a relapse, or I don’t keep on the path I’ve set for myself.”
If this is you then don’t give up.
You’re trying to use self-discipline and that doesn’t work.
Self discipline is always in short supply
Because self discipline calls for willpower…and willpower doesn’t last very long. It wears thin real fast.
So if you haven’t been able to get where you want to be yet, perhaps it’s because you’re trying to rely upon discipline and willpower.
And they don’t really work.
What works instead is to
Build a habit of success
Habits are continuously being formed.
Good habits and bad ones.
You just do something for a short while, and the brain cells required to do that thing start with very “intense” brain power required, but quickly move to “more automatic and less intense” brain power required brain cells.
Remember when you learned to drive? You would sweat and it was tense and so difficult you’d feel drained when you got out of the car.
Now that you know how to drive, you magically get out of the car and don’t even remember how you drove there!
The brain cells required at first were the very intense, high energy ones. But once you learned how to drive, the “easier” brain cells took over, the ones requiring less energy and less conscious thought.
You’ve made how to drive into a habit.
Same thing with sex, and everything to do with that. You can build a habit of successful sex, wonderful sex, sex that will curl your toes and hers too…
And once you do that, you won’t ever have a problem again.
It requires you to fix desensitization and learn some new habits.
That means building and reinforcing the habit every day
What you want is to build a habit of success. So you can begin using that habit to guide you every day, every week, without having to think about it.
This brings me to what I’m working on with the publishing company, Calworth Glenford.
I will be able to talk about it shortly. Watch your email for the details.
I’m thinking this will be the biggest thing that we’ve ever done.
warmly,
