Wow, my dick problems are getting better – the three stages of recovery
What does it look like to recover and reverse your desensitization.
I thought I’d show you what this looks like here today. And make some silly puns at the same time.
Ready? So, let’s focus first on
Stage 1 – realize that desensitization is the cause of the problem
This is where most guys are today. They know they are having issues. Their penis isn’t getting as hard as it did before.
Or they have trouble coming. It’s grind away time with not much feeling and not able to close the deal.
Or they come too fast and it’s over so quick. How embarrassing to shoot your wad so fast and the dick goes limp and she hasn’t had much time yet to even warm up.
Or, perhaps the dick isn’t getting hard at all.
Or it’s only hard for masturbation and not for intercourse.
Or maybe it takes so much work on her part to get the dick hard that it’s like climbing Mount Everest for something that should be fun and easy, right?
No wonder guys have so many problems today and think they are going downhill and need chemicals to pep them up. It’s because
Big pharma has given us a cock and bull story.
(Aahaha, pun intended).
One big drug company accidentally discovered Viagra and how quickly they realized, hey we can make ten bucks every time a guy wants to stick it in his girl. At an average of almost twice a week that’ like seventy bucks a month.
(All the other big drug companies soon came up with similar drugs, what are called in the drug industry “me too” drugs because those other drugs compete with Viagra as in “me too, I keep men hard too, take me instead of Viagra” but these all work the same exact way Viagra works, although some may cause fewer or more side effects or last longer.)
(By the way, guys who make it through my method end up having sex every day, several times a day, or every other day…and for 30 or 60 minutes, not the average of under 3 minutes.)
That Viagra discovery and profit calculation was the beginning of the end for guys who aren’t being told the truth. In working with guys I find that
ED pills make desensitization worse
The pills may not cause desensitization to get worse, but they cause a man to engage in the same type of sex and this perhaps is the reason that with the pills, guys often tend to get worse. The pills work for awhile, but they don’t increase the pleasure or sensation, and ultimately erection problems are worse. And stuff like “I can’t come easily” gets worse…
And, after all, the docs themselves are well meaning. I don’t blame the docs for this. They go through medical school without knowing dick about this problem or its cause (pun intended again) because the drug companies call the shots in terms of research and education.
And drug companies don’t want doctors to know the truth either.
So the docs often have the problem themselves. Often. I can’t tell you how many medical guys I’ve spoken to and helped change their life. They are as surprised as anyone to learn about desensitization.
And it’s all because the real cause is being kept from guys. It’s a big conspiracy in my opinion.
So now a guy knows the problem, so the next step is to move to stage 2 and
Stop porn viewing, fantasy and masturbation (for awhile)
Porn viewing is what causes a lot of dick problems. If you view porn even once a week, or even once a month, and you are not happy with your erections, then you must cut out the porn.
And it isn’t just porn. It’s also just seeing a parade of novel women, surfing personal ads or dating sites. Getting triggers from ads on TV or billboards or emails or Facebook.
It’s challenging stuff. When someone hasn’t recovered and they say, “Matt, I quit porn etc.” I ask them about fantasy and usually this is the culprit.
Fantasy is to the reptile brain the same as something real. But it’s much more intense than something real.
I mean, in the real world I stick my penis in her vagina and we dwell together and it ain’t like the porn scenes.
Plus, I have the same woman that I stick my penis in, not different ones. My brain as a man is very sensitive to seeing a parade of hot fake or unavailable women and it loses sensitivity to my real woman when it sees to many of those fake hotties.
It’s something I never understood before. Because my brain was so desensitized for like the past zillion years that I never noticed it.
Now I notice this effect a lot. I was explaining this to a friend yesterday. I don’t like looking at sexy photos of women because I am so aware of how it affects my perceptions and pleasures with my real woman.
I love looking at a pretty girl, of course. And I do all the time. But I avoid looking at photos, two dimensional images, anything that triggers a sexual thought and that isn’t real.
It just messes up my perceptions and my feelings. And it is doing the same to you but you may not be aware of it yet.
So now fortunately stage 3 happens…
Become much more attractive to women…and begin having a much better time with sex
This is when you get the fact that partner sex and masturbation are so different.
Partner sex becomes really fantastic again. And masturbation has lost its attraction.
Quite frankly, it can get to a point where you don’t masturbate at all.
Not because you are trying not to, but because it is so satisfying having this time with your penis in her vagina and soaking her up that it’s just not even interesting anymore to masturbate.
And the women all over become so much more attracted to you and start giving you signals everywhere.
I’m nothing special in the looks department. And even I can’t go out without some woman giving me a signal, perhaps touching my shoulder at the restaurant like happened the other day. Or giving me a frank stare and tossing her hair.
It’s not like I’m anything incredible looking either. It’s just the power of normal male sexual energy.
Women aren’t used to basking in a man’s built up (normal) sexual energy
They are used to guys who spill their seed at every opportunity and guys who can’t get it up, and guys who are so porn-ified.
Of course there are plenty of virile men but the percentage today is way down.
So you stand out at this point (pun intended, LOL.) You really do. (Note to young guys: get with it, you have an edge in the looks department but older guys who recover are going to be eating your lunch.)
It’s amazing how much confidence you show at this point, even if you are normally somewhat inhibited, shy or reserved.
It doesn’t matter if shy, reserved or even timid is your outward personality.
Inside, your reptile brain is back into balance and it’s a naturally confident brain, and one that just wants to love and make love.
Your reptile brain is now completely confident and it puts out pheromones and confidence signals that women pick up on without your having to do anything, think anything or be anything but who you are.
It’s at this point that I find
Men are surprised to discover how confident they become
It’s striking, and this confidence isn’t about just being confident with women.
Here’s a huge secret of attraction and it doesn’t matter if it’s re-attracting your wife to wake her up sexually or landing a gorgeous girlfriend who really digs on you.
The secret is that women are attracted to men who are confident with other men.
That’s right. If you are confident in your dealings with other men, women will be all over you.
And what makes you confident with men and with women is that same male sexual energy.
It surges in you and makes you feel like a total winner. And men get out of your way. They defer to you. They respect you even if you don’t say a word. You don’t have to say a word, they get these signals automatically.
This is what makes you more alpha if you want to call it that. And that attracts women and makes you even more alpha, in a virtuous circle.
There is a lot more to all this. But what you may want to do is head over to my From Dead Down There to Raging Sexual Confidence webinar which I’m able to give, thanks to my publisher allowing me to. Click to see what it’s all about.
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