How to choose pleasure and a happy life with full erections and maximum sensitivity

This article will be an eye opener for you if you’ve ever watched yourself do something that your higher self didn’t want you to do — but you felt powerless to stop yourself.

Now it’s all explained, and it will make you feel a lot better about your life and your behavior because it shows that it’s not your fault. You’ve been suffering because you are running programs that make you unhappy and nobody ever showed you that you had a choice in the matter!

So, one of the lessons here in these articles and in my courses is that we all run programs and that we are happiest if we choose our programs rather than just submit to being slaves to them.

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Because nature doesn’t care if you’re happy. Nature wants you to stick your dick into more females and get them pregnant. Once that happens, nature isn’t all that interested in your happiness.

That’s one program anyway. The “stick your dick in as many pussies as possible and come inside them” program.

And it may be a good one sometimes, but not other times.

Another program can make you very happy for the rest of your life. And give you the most remarkable and amazing sex life you’ve ever experienced.

Choose your programs, and live a happy life.

And the main choice I see is what I call the 

Dopamine Track or the Oxytocin Track

I’ll talk about dopamine first.

You can’t live without dopamine.

Dopamine is the master hormone of want in the body.

Hungry? Dopamine makes you feel a desire for food. It makes you want that chocolate cake, or that ribeye steak, or those french fries.

Lusting after the new smart phone? That’s dopamine.

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See a pretty girl floating around your office? Dopamine makes you want her.

There are always other hormones involved, but dopamine is central to wanting something.

When you are under the influence of dopamine, your heart races a little, you sweat a little more, your blood pressure goes up,you hyperventilate just a little. You speed up.

This is the experience, whether you are conscious of it or not, when you shop online or in a store, when you really want a new car and you’re in the showroom.

Without dopamine, we wouldn’t have sex, we wouldn’t eat and we wouldn’t live

Dopamine pushes us into decisions and into doing stuff instead of thinking about doing stuff.

When you lust after your wife or girlfriend, there is a lot of dopamine involved.

When you lust after a new girl you first meet, that’s dopamine.

So dopamine is a wonderful thing and I love my dopamine!

However, living driven primarily by dopamine, what I call the Dopamine Track, does not create happiness.

The Dopamine Track makes us very dissatisfied and unhappy

Fred is a classic example. He was with Cindy for several years and reasonably happy. Then he met young Rachel at a party. Cindy was talking to her female friends, and Fred and Rachel practically bumped into each other and Fred says, “I knew I had to have her.”

That’s the Dopamine Track.

It’s want, want, want. Need to have, need to own, need to do.

That’s our friend Dopamine.

When Fred finally hooked up with Rachel, it was incredible. It felt incredible. It wasn’t like sex with Cindy which was kind of routine and boring. 

Sex with Rachel was amazing. And she was younger and tighter and everything like that.

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But that didn’t last. Not for long. Because here’s the problem with the Dopamine Track: When we get what we want, we aren’t happy.

Fred found after awhile that Rachel was clingy and annoying. Sometimes he’d look at her after he had come inside her, and wondered what he was doing with her.

It’s like when you are hungry and you see a big old tasty cake. You gorge on cake and you feel sick. 

The Dopamine Track makes you feel dissatisfied and unhappy after you’ve got what you want.

Then of course it sets in all over again. Fred was out looking for other women and he said to himself, what am I doing? Cindy is amazing. And I have Rachel on the side. Why am I looking at other women? How awful is that?”

This is the Dopamine Track. Always 

Looking for something new

Dopamine is all about novelty. If it’s not new, it’s not interesting.

New girls, new positions, new toys, new porn, new ways to get off.

And each time, the new is exciting because dopamine is exciting, but when we get what we want, it turns dull and now it’s time for the next thrill.

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This is exactly what dopamine is supposed to do. Get us off our bottoms so instead of sitting around we go out and seek new pussy, or food, or something else we need or want.

But Dopamine creates constant dissatisfaction. We want, we get, and we are unhappy.

That’s why 

Dopamine is key in all addictive behaviors

Our brains have dopamine sensors and the sensors love getting bathed in dopamine. That’s part of what scientists call the “reward circuit” in the brain.

When we get into a behavior such as gambling, porn, or drugs, it’s all about constantly needing a fresh bath of dopamine on those brain sensors. We have to feel that dopamine or we get even more anxious, depressed and unhappy.

It always seems that the cure is whatever it is we are addicted to — the next bet, the next porn tube site, the next hit of free base.

It’s all the same to our brains — it’s an addiction that is actually an addiction to dopamine.

And all dopamine addiction is fixed the same way. Go cold turkey, handle the symptoms of things being flat, gray and boring…and eventually life turns colorful again.

But a gambler is always susceptible to gambling again. A drug user can return to the drug oh-so-easily.

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A porn user who has kicked porn can easily fall for porn again. Or it could be web cams, or having affairs. These are addictive behaviors when the dopamine kicks in and begins controlling us.

The Dopamine Track.

And the behaviors don’t just go away when we resist them successfully.

No, they are always there as a possibility.

The brain has these deep grooves in it, these nerve pathways deeply etched in the brain. These nerve pathways are always there — they fade away with less use, but they can easily be reactivated.

And the brain loves those addictions so much! 

The brain will always generate thoughts to bring back the addiction, whatever it is

“Oh, a little won’t hurt.”

“You’ve been so good, you should reward yourself.”

“Let’s just watch the porn and not masturbate to it.”

“I’ll just talk to her, I won’t try to go to bed with her.”

And a really good one:

“Now that I’ve cured myself of this addiction, let me test out how I’m cured.”

Testing is a huge perpetuator of the Dopamine Track. Our brain says, “let’s test, get hard masturbating a little, or watching a little porn, what’s wrong with that?”

A lot is wrong with that, but relapsing seems to be more common than not on the road to getting free from the Dopamine Track.

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Because we want to live our lives free from this. It is too controlling, too much like being ridden by the tiger. And it never satisfies for long, always puts us in a state of chronic dissatisfaction.

And for our friend Fred, it resulted in Cindy leaving him, and Fred taking one new girl to bed after the other, without any real connection with them and without any real happiness or love.

Fortunately, there is another track that we can live on and it is a sweet one. It’s the

Joy and pleasure of the Oxytocin Track

Oxytocin is the hormone that is found in our brains and in our testicles (and in women in their brains and in various other parts.)

Oxytocin is often called the “love hormone” but I would call it the “satisfaction hormone” because it makes you feel very satisfied with your life. 

It makes you feel very happy with your partner, and your children, and your mom and dad.

It makes you feel like you already have it all, that this is where you want to be, not somewhere else.

And most interesting of all is that

Oxytocin is tremendous for men’s erections

It makes erections last longer, come up quicker, and come back sooner after you ejaculate.

Guys all thing the major hormone for them is Testosterone. Testosterone is what makes a man a man, with a strong sex drive, muscles, lean and mean body, etc.

But Oxytocin is what makes a man feel happy and satisfied in his life.

What strikes me is that 

Oxytocin is the most amazing way to live because you feel such incredible pleasure

It makes sex the best thing in the whole world by a country mile.

It makes you want to have sex all the time, and it makes sex last and last.

And it makes the pleasure from sex equivalent with a little practice to a whole body orgasm that can last 30 minutes or an hour every time.

(Unless you want a quickie with her in which case 10 or 15 minutes…)

There is no more “I’m satisfied now what do we do next?”

Sex is never boring on the Oxytocin Track.

The problems couples have are not your problems anymore.

It is impossible for you to get bored with your partner. She is just more and more amazing all the time.

And in every other way, living on the Oxytocin Track takes the hungry want need and desperation out of life. You already have it all.

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Oxytocin helps cure depression. It makes anxiety melt away. It makes you love your family more. It makes you happy with life. It even makes you lose fat and eat less without effort.

You need both Oxytocin and Dopamine but one of the major benefits of the method and system I talk about in my courses is that your hormones get back into balance and you are no longer living on the Dopamine Track.

You can choose the Oxytocin Track and when you do, you will never look back. One of the best ways to do this is this way. Click here for a special offer only available until Saturday, January 4, 2014 midnight EST.

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Do you have trouble with the same thoughts going around and around?

This email will help you get rid of these negative thoughts that repeat over and over.

There is a part of the brain called the mind. It is really a thin layer of cells on the outer part of the brain.

Then there is a much larger section of the brain consisting of various parts that you can think of like a computer.

This part of the brain generates thoughts like a computer does.

Over and over.

The thoughts are generated out of habit, the way a computer program runs the same way each time because nobody has changed the program.Continue reading

one simple method (questions from readers)

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Hey, there, Matt Cook here, and I want to invite you to ask any question you want and I’ll answer it.

1. Just hit REPLY to this email and ask anything you want.

2. I’ll answer some of those questions here tomorrow.

3. I will never use any personally identifiable information and everyone benefits.

Just to get you started, I get questions all the time and here are a few.

Question: does just viewing porn hurt anything? If I just look but don’t touch, is there any harm in that?

Answer:

For some guys, just viewing porn has no effect because their brains aren’t designed that way.

For other guys, their brains are very sensitive to porn and yes, even viewing it can cause a lot of issues.

The actual viewing of porn sets off a chain of hormonal chemistry type stuff in their brains (I’m one of those guys by the way) and desensitization sets in.

Question: I’m having a lot of issues with my woman in terms of not being to be enter, hardness…right now. Any quick fix you can suggest in the meantime?

Answer:

Sure. Try soft entry. It really is a neat experience.

You lubricate your member (use almond oil, or a so-called personal lubricant, or cocoa butter that’s melted) and you have her kind of open her lips a little and you insert into her.

Yes, this works even if you are soft.

Usually it gets hard once you are inside. If not, then you can hang out there anyway and both of you get a lot of pleasure out of it.

This works best with you on top. Have her lie back, and she opens her lips with her fingers and you are on your knees and you insert and then lie on top of her.

Again, ask me anything. Hit REPLY and I’ll do my best to answer here — keeping everything about your identity private.

Too Early?

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Okay, Matt Cook here. Got many notes from readers and today want to answer this one from “Brad”

“My problem is premature e. How do I cure this trouble of mine? What are its major causes?”

Drop everything and watch this video now that explains things.

And…

…we’re doing an upcoming class and we’ll be talking about this in some more depth. (The class will be free so look for an invite just after Christmas.)

There are really two types of PE.

One type is what I call “virgin PE” and it’s where you have a very young inexperienced man who comes immediately because he’s new to intercourse and gets too excited too fast.

There is another form of PE with experienced guys and this can be due to desensitization.

Three things can really help.

1. Slow down. A lot of this stuff can go away when you savor your partner and take a lot of time.

When you get into this fast mode it can be incredibly exciting and the excitement takes you off the charts in a hurry and BAM you’re done.

So slow down instead.

2. Relax the muscles in the pelvic floor These muscles are tensed up when you come, and if you relax them consciously you won’t come so fast.

They are the same muscles you exercise when you do “Kegels”.

Focusing on these muscles, what I call the “root” is a key to having a great time and not going over the edge too quickly.

3. Breathe When you are about to come you have short shallow breaths.

When you don’t want to come, try breathing from your belly and take slow, deep breaths. Very slow, and deep from your belly — this will help you avoid falling over the edge and ending the fun early.

Stay tuned for a training class we’ll be doing soon on this and more.

And if you have a question, hit REPLY and ask.

Meanwhile go here now and watch this video:

https://mr103.infusionsoft.com/app/linkClick/3151/cfd24a788c6fbb30/343997/c31cc85ad1dd1318

Chad’s Story

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Americans were watching the first men to walk on the moon.

A neighbor introduced Chad into the joys of porn (“P” as we often say in these emails.)

And showed Chad how to “M.”

That was the instant beginning of a life long problem with “M” and “P” as we call it in these emails.

Chad could not get enough. Sometimes three or four times a day.

And it continued even after he got married.

He thought marriage would end his issues with P and M but it didn’t.

Chad felt distant from his wife. That is a common effect from P and M — real women seem less than exciting.

And he had great difficulties even being interested in “Sue”.

P was much more stimulating and they made love as seldom as possible.

And after a few years, they divorced.

Now he’s in a new relationship and everything has changed.

Chad is so excited about his new life.

He has discovered the urge to get over a lifelong problem with P and M.

He now knows that P can become an addiction that affects the brain physically.

P gets the brain hooked on the hormone dopamine.

The dopamine addiction is what P is all about, nothing to do with women.

The brain’s pleasure center gets hooked on dopamine from P and that is what causes what Chad knows now is “de-sensitization.”

It is totally not his fault. Chad was completely innocent.

As are you.

Now, Chad knows the truth and he is taking charge and wow, he is an excited and determined man.

He feels that the issues he’s had have made him perform poorly in bed with women and now he is really excited about being excited with his new girlfriend.

His former addiction to P made him shy and distant but he is coming out of his shell.

He is claiming the life of being a strong determined man in passionate love with his girlfriend.

Watch my emails for more about Chad tomorrow and announcement of the next web training class.

I’m excited for you!

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