How to choose pleasure and a happy life with full erections and maximum sensitivity

This article will be an eye opener for you if you’ve ever watched yourself do something that your higher self didn’t want you to do — but you felt powerless to stop yourself.

Now it’s all explained, and it will make you feel a lot better about your life and your behavior because it shows that it’s not your fault. You’ve been suffering because you are running programs that make you unhappy and nobody ever showed you that you had a choice in the matter!

So, one of the lessons here in these articles and in my courses is that we all run programs and that we are happiest if we choose our programs rather than just submit to being slaves to them.

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Because nature doesn’t care if you’re happy. Nature wants you to stick your dick into more females and get them pregnant. Once that happens, nature isn’t all that interested in your happiness.

That’s one program anyway. The “stick your dick in as many pussies as possible and come inside them” program.

And it may be a good one sometimes, but not other times.

Another program can make you very happy for the rest of your life. And give you the most remarkable and amazing sex life you’ve ever experienced.

Choose your programs, and live a happy life.

And the main choice I see is what I call the 

Dopamine Track or the Oxytocin Track

I’ll talk about dopamine first.

You can’t live without dopamine.

Dopamine is the master hormone of want in the body.

Hungry? Dopamine makes you feel a desire for food. It makes you want that chocolate cake, or that ribeye steak, or those french fries.

Lusting after the new smart phone? That’s dopamine.

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See a pretty girl floating around your office? Dopamine makes you want her.

There are always other hormones involved, but dopamine is central to wanting something.

When you are under the influence of dopamine, your heart races a little, you sweat a little more, your blood pressure goes up,you hyperventilate just a little. You speed up.

This is the experience, whether you are conscious of it or not, when you shop online or in a store, when you really want a new car and you’re in the showroom.

Without dopamine, we wouldn’t have sex, we wouldn’t eat and we wouldn’t live

Dopamine pushes us into decisions and into doing stuff instead of thinking about doing stuff.

When you lust after your wife or girlfriend, there is a lot of dopamine involved.

When you lust after a new girl you first meet, that’s dopamine.

So dopamine is a wonderful thing and I love my dopamine!

However, living driven primarily by dopamine, what I call the Dopamine Track, does not create happiness.

The Dopamine Track makes us very dissatisfied and unhappy

Fred is a classic example. He was with Cindy for several years and reasonably happy. Then he met young Rachel at a party. Cindy was talking to her female friends, and Fred and Rachel practically bumped into each other and Fred says, “I knew I had to have her.”

That’s the Dopamine Track.

It’s want, want, want. Need to have, need to own, need to do.

That’s our friend Dopamine.

When Fred finally hooked up with Rachel, it was incredible. It felt incredible. It wasn’t like sex with Cindy which was kind of routine and boring. 

Sex with Rachel was amazing. And she was younger and tighter and everything like that.

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But that didn’t last. Not for long. Because here’s the problem with the Dopamine Track: When we get what we want, we aren’t happy.

Fred found after awhile that Rachel was clingy and annoying. Sometimes he’d look at her after he had come inside her, and wondered what he was doing with her.

It’s like when you are hungry and you see a big old tasty cake. You gorge on cake and you feel sick. 

The Dopamine Track makes you feel dissatisfied and unhappy after you’ve got what you want.

Then of course it sets in all over again. Fred was out looking for other women and he said to himself, what am I doing? Cindy is amazing. And I have Rachel on the side. Why am I looking at other women? How awful is that?”

This is the Dopamine Track. Always 

Looking for something new

Dopamine is all about novelty. If it’s not new, it’s not interesting.

New girls, new positions, new toys, new porn, new ways to get off.

And each time, the new is exciting because dopamine is exciting, but when we get what we want, it turns dull and now it’s time for the next thrill.

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This is exactly what dopamine is supposed to do. Get us off our bottoms so instead of sitting around we go out and seek new pussy, or food, or something else we need or want.

But Dopamine creates constant dissatisfaction. We want, we get, and we are unhappy.

That’s why 

Dopamine is key in all addictive behaviors

Our brains have dopamine sensors and the sensors love getting bathed in dopamine. That’s part of what scientists call the “reward circuit” in the brain.

When we get into a behavior such as gambling, porn, or drugs, it’s all about constantly needing a fresh bath of dopamine on those brain sensors. We have to feel that dopamine or we get even more anxious, depressed and unhappy.

It always seems that the cure is whatever it is we are addicted to — the next bet, the next porn tube site, the next hit of free base.

It’s all the same to our brains — it’s an addiction that is actually an addiction to dopamine.

And all dopamine addiction is fixed the same way. Go cold turkey, handle the symptoms of things being flat, gray and boring…and eventually life turns colorful again.

But a gambler is always susceptible to gambling again. A drug user can return to the drug oh-so-easily.

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A porn user who has kicked porn can easily fall for porn again. Or it could be web cams, or having affairs. These are addictive behaviors when the dopamine kicks in and begins controlling us.

The Dopamine Track.

And the behaviors don’t just go away when we resist them successfully.

No, they are always there as a possibility.

The brain has these deep grooves in it, these nerve pathways deeply etched in the brain. These nerve pathways are always there — they fade away with less use, but they can easily be reactivated.

And the brain loves those addictions so much! 

The brain will always generate thoughts to bring back the addiction, whatever it is

“Oh, a little won’t hurt.”

“You’ve been so good, you should reward yourself.”

“Let’s just watch the porn and not masturbate to it.”

“I’ll just talk to her, I won’t try to go to bed with her.”

And a really good one:

“Now that I’ve cured myself of this addiction, let me test out how I’m cured.”

Testing is a huge perpetuator of the Dopamine Track. Our brain says, “let’s test, get hard masturbating a little, or watching a little porn, what’s wrong with that?”

A lot is wrong with that, but relapsing seems to be more common than not on the road to getting free from the Dopamine Track.

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Because we want to live our lives free from this. It is too controlling, too much like being ridden by the tiger. And it never satisfies for long, always puts us in a state of chronic dissatisfaction.

And for our friend Fred, it resulted in Cindy leaving him, and Fred taking one new girl to bed after the other, without any real connection with them and without any real happiness or love.

Fortunately, there is another track that we can live on and it is a sweet one. It’s the

Joy and pleasure of the Oxytocin Track

Oxytocin is the hormone that is found in our brains and in our testicles (and in women in their brains and in various other parts.)

Oxytocin is often called the “love hormone” but I would call it the “satisfaction hormone” because it makes you feel very satisfied with your life. 

It makes you feel very happy with your partner, and your children, and your mom and dad.

It makes you feel like you already have it all, that this is where you want to be, not somewhere else.

And most interesting of all is that

Oxytocin is tremendous for men’s erections

It makes erections last longer, come up quicker, and come back sooner after you ejaculate.

Guys all thing the major hormone for them is Testosterone. Testosterone is what makes a man a man, with a strong sex drive, muscles, lean and mean body, etc.

But Oxytocin is what makes a man feel happy and satisfied in his life.

What strikes me is that 

Oxytocin is the most amazing way to live because you feel such incredible pleasure

It makes sex the best thing in the whole world by a country mile.

It makes you want to have sex all the time, and it makes sex last and last.

And it makes the pleasure from sex equivalent with a little practice to a whole body orgasm that can last 30 minutes or an hour every time.

(Unless you want a quickie with her in which case 10 or 15 minutes…)

There is no more “I’m satisfied now what do we do next?”

Sex is never boring on the Oxytocin Track.

The problems couples have are not your problems anymore.

It is impossible for you to get bored with your partner. She is just more and more amazing all the time.

And in every other way, living on the Oxytocin Track takes the hungry want need and desperation out of life. You already have it all.

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Oxytocin helps cure depression. It makes anxiety melt away. It makes you love your family more. It makes you happy with life. It even makes you lose fat and eat less without effort.

You need both Oxytocin and Dopamine but one of the major benefits of the method and system I talk about in my courses is that your hormones get back into balance and you are no longer living on the Dopamine Track.

You can choose the Oxytocin Track and when you do, you will never look back. One of the best ways to do this is this way. Click here for a special offer only available until Saturday, January 4, 2014 midnight EST.

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ky

being prsent is such an major truth of a great life even thinking of the past in the present as a ideal life and thinking of our wonderful future also, you are so right

David J.

I notice you have titillating photos in the article. I also note that you have said in the past that spending time looking at pretty girls, even clothed ones, is not really a good idea. In this article you point out the perils of living on dopamine, and very correctly I believe, and yet there are still the soft porn, if you like, images throughout.
How come you do that?

Regards

DJ

    Matt Cook

    David, we have endless discussions about this at the company here. It is not a really good idea. I think it is somewhat like offering free beer to entice alcoholics to join your quitting alcohol program. We meet guys where they are rather than where they want to be. I personally filter them out as I filter out all triggers as best I can.

    It’s something we continue to talk about. It’s not a good idea for recovery, but it is helpful for marketing.

    warmly

    –Matt

John

If this “special offer only available until Saturday, January 4,2014 midnight EST. Why is it still here?

Joey

Ok….I’m ready. All ears.

Daniel Beauchamp

Hi Matt,

I started to follow your regime with more omega 3s than before. It seems to me that I have less fat when I take a pinch around my waist in the morning. Unfortunately, I don’t have a girlfriend and cannot tell you the difference it makes in this aspect. For my confidence with women, it will take more time to make a good judgment. I’m planning to buy the supplements that you suggest the most (vitamin K/D3, Iodine and magnesium).

With all my respect that I owe you, I find it strange that I received an email from you on January 5th that advertise this program above (Oxytocin) which the deadline is already passed (January 4th Midnight). As well, I found unreasonable from the responsibles of Big Kahuna to leave 01 to 02 days to consider a program that costs close to $600. You are saying that they might reconsider if enough people ask for it. I would need to see again what the program is about to ask for it. The link doesn’t work any more.

I thank you for the first program I bought from you and planning to continue the “diet”.

Sincerely,

Daniel

    Matt Cook

    Thanks Daniel. I have got a TON of emails saying the same thing and passed them along to my team at the publisher. I think we’ll get to see how they respond shortly. Sometimes the emails get delayed and when they finally arrive, it’s too late. I will pass this along to them also.

    I’m glad the omega 3 is helping. It all takes some time as nutritional imbalances took years to develop and they take weeks or months to correct. I think you’ll be very pleased as your health improves and your libido goes up.

    warmly

    –Matt

john

Ok stopped all M and P and are waiting for morning wood been 4 weeks now and I am not happy with the progress. Wife has lost all interest for the last 20 years and will not look at opportunities to rekindle….So what is a 65 year old to do? Hopefully I will get to the recovered stated and the path I chose is the oxy….we will see……

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    Matt Cook

    Marnia and Gary are doing wonderful work and that is a fantastic book. Thanks for the recommendation

    warmly

    –Matt

Anthony L. Johnson

Hi, Matt. During the summer of last year (2013) I signed up for the “Big Bang” and also the “Mavericks” videos. Then I had a bad computer crash, and have lost my ability to connect up and so see and hear the valuable “Big Bang” videos. I also enjoyed the Maverick interviews I heard before that crash on my Mac.

I would be grateful if there is some way that you could help me recuperate my loss. I am especially keen to re-hear the Big Bang advice several times.

As I am 74 and have extra problems because of chronic lymphatic leukemia, your advice and knowledge makes a big difference.

    Matt Cook

    All you have to do is send an email to my support desk or call us at 877-691-3328

    The support email is matt at getrapidhelp.com

    I’ll forward this to them so they will help you out

    Good luck I think you’ll really get a lot out of going back to the Big Bang course. Keep me posted as to your success and any speed bumps along the way. Thank you!

    warmly

    –Matt

Robert Hadley

Just wish I could have taken advantage of this offer, but no money for that. I know this price is not going to be repeated, but can one get one at the full price that was listed? Anyway you offer hope for recovery.

As a 62 year old widower who has not had a lot of erections over the last seven years. I would really like my sex life back. I stopped being real successful before the seven year time-frame I mentioned, but my wife eventually died of lung cancer and I feel that her pain and suffering led to a lot of the loss of intimacy, however, I have been a long time porn viewer. That is a hard addiction to break free of. I do it a day at a time and try to keep away from all the testing and other tricks ones mind uses to mess one up.

Tom

Matt: This seems all to good to be true, but I am still working on the Keagles, getting away from porn and Literotica. Seems you are going to fast for me but asking me to spring for nearly $600 before I see any results.
I had a heart attack in 1999 now I am nearly 70 and have not had intercourse with my wife since 1999. ED pill enduced semi-erection goes away when I roll over to penetrate. I am able to masturbate regularly with a good hardon, despite having to take heart pills. I work out regularly and am fit and trim but could lose 20 pounds or so. I look like I am in mid-50’s. I have followed your instructions to restore raging hardons, but everything remains the same even after 3 weeks. Any ideas?
Tom

    Matt Cook

    Tom, you haven’t had intercourse in over a decade. My advice is to stay the course. It can take awhile. It won’t take a decade to recover but it may take months. You should begin seeing improvement shortly though. Here are a few things to think about:

    Are you getting any morning erections yet?

    Have you stopped masturbation and porn and fantasy completely?

    Don’t spend another dime on my courses until you are seeing amazing results, Tom. No need to.

    warmly

    –Matt

      Tom

      Thanks Matt: I have not had a problem with morning wood, seems its always there in the 4-7:30 am timeframe. I have stopped porn, but still read Literotica.
      In the last decade have tried pills, injections but have been stymied by my wife (she has been clueless with regard to the importance of her dryness) Several attempts with these ED aids have ended in disaster because of her dryness and her response “see, I told you it wouldn’t work” These shutdowns psychologically have made it worse. So masturbation seems the only pleasurable course for me in view of her unwillingness to understand the problem and help. She is 62 and in menopause full blown. I have thought about seeing/finding someone else but the thought of failure again would be too embarrassing.
      I have asked her to look on-line to understand her part in this but got a blank stare.

Rick Taylor

Matt:

I was struck the other night when I looked at your chart of the Dopamine domanant person compared with the Oxitocin dominated person.

I fit the Oxitocin dominant side in every way…except for a lack of confidance in my erections…..and I’ve always been this way, even when I was young. I am 66. I was married twice, for 12 yrs and 20 yrs. Since and in between I’ve had prob’ly 25 girl friends and lovers. I have been a working and professional cowboy most of my life and been riding for over 50 years. I’m very healthy and vigorous and plan to marry another young woman and start another family. I raised 3 girls but never had a son.

I’ve tried all the pills and many herbal supplements with some success. My last lover asked me to stop taking the “pills” because it was racing my heart and she could see my flushed face. “I’d rather have you healthy than hardons.” she said. “Just take care of your prostate.”

The herbs I had did a better job anyway. All seem to have some effect but finding the right ones for your body seems to be key. My biggest problem is with first times in a new relationship. WoW! is that tense and getting to the point that I’m not willing to date any more until I know I am in love with the girl or at least way more than just interested.

I was very interested in your video, “Get into her tonight.” Been there, done that. I’ve used that technique however to get back in sooner after orgasm and a short rest or fall out, then just kiss her and snuggle and rest inside her, moving ever so slightly until it starts to grow and get erect again. I find that she really enjoys the sensation of feeling me growing and hardening inside her and most women will come quicker and easier this way. I think because,1. It makes a closer connection because I didn’t just roll over and go to sleep. It proves I still want her, and 2. she’s already warmed up from before, whether she came then or not.

On first entry’s of a new lady, I have (in the last 7 years)developed the technique of eating her pussy until she comes or insists I get inside imediately, at which point I am invariably semi hard then even with the anxiety (I really love eating pussy!) I will then take a choke hold at the base of my penis and force the blood into the head like a jelking excersize.

That seems to get me in ok, though I have had problems with one very tight lady who was not well lubricated. I did and do get in though and then proceed as you suggest in your video.

I live on a very remote ranch in the mountains near the Mexican border and I don’t get much opportunity to socialize. Trips to town are only occasional and expensive and filled with lists of ranch and personal business and groceries, and then must get back to feed my horses……SO, I spend a LOT of time on social and dating sites on my computer. It’s really the only way I have been able to contact a range of quality women. Over the 6 1/2 years I’ve been here I’ve had 7 come to visit and stay with me for various lengths of time from over night to over 2 months. They have come from both coasts and several interior states always on their own nickle.

The last two years though have been a dry spell, partly because of this feeling that I’m less willing to risk a total failure….Once that did happen (right after I left my second wife 8 years ago.) I just told her,”We’ll just go to sleep for a while. It’ll come up later. It always does.” I wasn’t really so sure, but we did, and it did and I fucked her 4 times that night. We became lovers for some time and are still friends. I was using both Cialis AND a strong herb recipe. In the morning she wouldn’t get up; said she couldn’t get up. “Rick do you know how long it’s been since I had an orgasm? 20 years. I’ve been married 4 times and that was the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. GOD you’re one hell of a man!” …. now, as gratifying as the final result was. I don’t want to face that again if I can help it. The pill and the herbs helped I think but did NOT get me there when I MOST needed it, the FIRST time.

I really like your program so far and I think it prob’ly IS the real answer. I’m not really sure that my sue of dating sites has as bad effect as you say though, for a couple of reasons; 1. This is not a new problem for me. I’ve been like this since I was a teenager; usually very good with ladies for the most part but vary anxcious about first times. Though I did start losing erections mid-fuck jsut before I left my second wife. We were having LOTs of problems. Sex wasn’t even monthly. I had my T checked and it was “Perfectly normal for a man your age.” THAT pissed me off. I’ve never been normal in anything and I wasn’t intertested in starting now! Normal is slow death if you let MDs take care of you….. That’s when I started educating myself about drugs and androgenic and adaptogenic herbs and using some of them with as I said, checkerd results. I got your course because I don’t want to depend n supplements and herbs if I can get truly healthy again……Actually, I feel that I’ve never been truly as sexually healthy as I should have been.

I have never been an adictive persoanlity though I have had some addictions. I took control and stopped smoking cigarettes after a hard 10 yr habit,,,at 19. Haven’t touched a cigarette since, though I used to have night mares about starting again. I stopped Pepsi Cola and gambling too . before they became troublesome. Porn has never been pervasive though I used too get soome videos because they started coming with herbs I ordered. I then got some sex ed videos. I don’t know any that I’ve watched more then once, though it IS a small collection. It gather’s dust and I loan them out to friends and don’t care if they don’t come back.

My astrological chart (Sagittarius) says of me:”Rick is rarely without a love relationship in his life but when he is without one he will channel all his energies into that one endeavor until he has one again.” That certainly seems to be true. Throughout my life. Thus my use of dating sites. Though it is quite strange because I am never lonely. I had a deeply spiritual experience in 1987 while recovering from a broken neck (horse fall). I think of it as a gift of remembering, because that’s what it was, remembering a conversation I had in Heaven just before coming here for this life time. I have had total peace of mind since then; ie., a knowing of who I am, where I came from, why I’m here and where I’m going. I know of only one other person who has that, who knows what I know.

He is a good friend for 2 years now. HE told me once,just in passing, that he can make love to his wife for 2 hours and keep it hard and satify her multiple times. They have a great relationship. He is just my age. That’s what I’d like to have.

I have many times lived alone in remote cow camps and always liked it. I just liked it better with a woman. I like to say, “Solitude is something best done in the right company.”
I realy DON’t need anyone to be happy it seems, yet I do need /want a feminnine influence in my life. I have always just loved women. I love everything about them and what makes them so different from us.

I want to do what ever it really takes to get the kind of sexual confidence you talk about…That is my story.
Rick

    Matt Cook

    Hi Rick, thanks for the story. Yours is one of the most interesting I’ve read in awhile and I’m grateful you are here.

    I’ll address a couple of points here.

    1. Dating sites. Yeah they are a huge problem for guys recovering from desensitization. The idea that “I’ve been doing this for x years so it must not be a problem” is often the wrong idea. Desensitization takes years to really take hold. Meanwhile it’s like a building brick by brick being built up. Many of those bricks are things like dating sites. Basically if it’s exciting it’s probably a dopamine trigger and a huge source of desensitization. I notice the same thing when I am picking out pictures for these articles. The solution is to be very careful. You can avoid photos, but even descriptions can get our brains excited and set us back. You might try cutting this back, or maybe you have a friend or close family member who can do the online legwork for you. I know someone who has a daughter who does that for him, strange as it may seem, at least most of the time so that the best “prospects” are queued up and he doesn’t have to spend hours surfing the dating and social media sites.

    2. I love your total peace of mind story. “The gift of remembering” is a profound description. It seems that we are given these terrible difficult times (like breaking your neck must have been) so we can grow and advance spiritually or however you want to describe it. I look it as the end of suffering and it seems to take something really terrible to get there. Some guys get there in the gutter on the street at the end-game of alcohol or drugs, others with an injury. Perhaps we can get there without all that…I am optimistic and think so.

    3. Anxiety. This really creeps up on us. I have a lot of thoughts about anxiety and how to stop it. I had that problem for years although it came AFTER the problems with erections. That’s how I see it — not the cause but the effect. And it affects everyone, even cowboys. How amazing is that, for guys to read your story and think to themselves, “it even affects a guy like Rick, a cowboy macho guy like him. I guess this isn’t so weird and strange after all. I’m really not the only one with this problem.”

    Thank you so much for taking your time to write your story and I hope to keep hearing from you.

    warmly

    –Matt

Gerard

Why is this such a mystery? This makes sense, sounds like common sense even, but I never heard it before and I have been living without it for so long. Thanks for putting this info together so I and others can learn it. I have opened discussions with my wife now and we have just started the programs. Thanks again Matt!

Tom

Matt, this is one of the best things that I’ve heard yet that you’ve talked about. It is so true, about Oxytocin and Dopamine. I really never thought about it before, but I can really relate. After hopefully getting a second chance with my dream girl, I really am going to try to do it the right way this time. We both had sexual disfunction. I’ve never believed that its only just a man’s problem. I have male friends that even at my age (65) are with different women every couple months. I don’t understand it, but at times I find myself admiring them. There must be a supplement for Oxytocin. Right!

Frank O'Leary

Really eye opening, Matt. Thank you!

Virg

Im on the dopamine tack for sure matt, how do i get off it, i’m struggling with porn now and want to get back to how it used to be, any tips?

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