Is good sex possible with the same life partner?

When Linda got to around age 38 or so, she stopped having orgasms mostly. Dan and Linda met at college and got married when he was in graduate school and she was out in the workplace. 

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Now, 17 years later, their sex was like this.

About once a week, they would lay down and Dan would use oral with her and then he’d penetrate her and come and then he’d roll off her and go to sleep.

It wasn’t Dan’s fault but he really didn’t give this much thought. He was very busy as a high powered law partner and didn’t have a lot of time or attention he directed to sex.

This is strange, even to Dan. “Matt, I never paid attention to it. I assumed things just decline as you get older together.”

And this isn’t unusual. But now that I’m in the life’s work of helping men with sexual improvement…I wonder…

 

Why does a man put years of study into work, but hardly pay attention to studying better sex?

 

I’m a believer in improvement. In process. In making things better and better.

Dan went to four years of college and three years of law school. He struggled through school and paid over $200,000 for his education.

Then he spent years toiling as a low paid “associate” at a law firm, working 80 or 90 hours a week and never having a weekend off.

But for his sex life, Dan didn’t pay any attention at all. He just coasted along.

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It is true that sex is an animalistic activity, but so is eating.

I love eating but I don’t eat to live.

I spend time preparing good meals.

Yesterday, I ate grass fed burgers with beef I ground myself. I smoked it in an outdoor smoker.

I ate a fresh kale salad with butternut squash chunks and toasted walnuts and the highest quality parmesan cheese.

Eating is an animal act but I eat well.

Don’t you have things in your life you really care about?

Don’t you study those things and build up your knowledge around them?

And I think sex deserves that kind of attention too, don’t you?

But how do you wake up a sleeping sex life?

But ask Linda what happened to their sex life?

“I don’t know why, but I’m not that interested anymore. I think about sex and I like sex, sure. But it isn’t on the top of the list anymore.”

That’s what Linda says.

Sex is how we are built. We are built to have sex all the time with our partner.

How do I know this?

Almost all animals have “estrus” where the female is ready and wants sex. 

But humans don’t work that way. Women can have sex pretty much any time. But the crucial problem is they lose interest…so the question is

Why do women lose interest in sex?

Sex the way men do it isn’t so hot for women. Just look at how the penis is designed. The penis provides men with loads of sensation with simple manual stimulation especially at the tip. 

But women have a very different make-up of their pleasure places. They have the clitoris, the A-spot, the G-spot, the vagina, outside the vagina.

It isn’t this simple, but sex does become kind of boring for women after awhile with the same partner.

Part of the reason for this is that men don’t know how to really satisfy a woman and women won’t tell men.

Linda doesn’t know why she is not that interested in sex. But the top of the list has to be, it has become boring for her.

The usual media answer is “new new new.” 

New positions.

New toys.

New lingerie.

New games.

But if you’ve tried this you know how…

New quickly becomes old. 

Then you’re left with the same partner and the same issues.

New becomes old. New isn’t the answer to a sex life that can last the rest of your life and be exciting.

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Is that even possible to have a fulfilling sex life with the same partner for years or decades?

I was fortunate enough to have found some answers to this problem.

Sex was boring and almost a duty before for me. But now, it is very different.

I didn’t discover anything new. I discovered something old. Very old.

It started when I stumbled on a few guys online had found out the truth…an almost secret group of guys who had solved this problem using some new scientific discoveries and some stuff that comes out of the ancient Chinese and Indian literature.

The Tao and Tantric scholars figured this out to a great extent centuries ago.

I’m out of time…I’ll continue writing on this tomorrow. Please do your part. Leave a comment or question here. Thank you!

 

 

 

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Pete Littlefield

I was so hoping to find in the pages of your book the key or herb tea to help me with ED. I’m 81 and need your help. You keep eluding to
it in your book. So where do I find it.
Your Friend Pete

rosi

I think most of mens encounter this problem one or twice in their life.I am intrigue to know more,please

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I subscribed to your online service and was charged the fee on my credit card statement. Initially I did receive an online version of the service you offered but my computer got fouled up and I seem to lost what you initially furnished. I really never had a chance to thoroughly review all of it when the trouble occurred. How can I get the same stuff replaced and any further updates that you said would be forthcoming??

Thanks in advance for your cooperation.

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    Matt Cook

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    Thanks so much! We’ll get on the phone with you if you need and will help you sort things out.

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Edwin

Very good thoughts. I’ve wondered about this myself.

Dani

I’m agree with you: we spend a lot of time for improving much things in our life (most of them really silly), but when it comes at sex life, we think that everything have to go “automatically”, without any effort. Wrong, wrong, wrong!!! We continuously find a new things we like in variuos fields of life, but in our sex life, after finding 2-3 things we like, we stop to search. It’a like continue to wear in the same way all life long…no one would consider it normal! Thank you Matt, for wake up us!!

Tom

I remember counting once in my thirties, and havin had sex 22 times in 24 hours. Now, it doesn’t rven want to get up once.

Tom Parks

You got my money, but I haven’t received the videos and it’s been two weeks?

    Matt Cook

    thanks for posting here, Tom.

    I passed it along to our support team.

    We sent you registration links as soon as you ordered.

    Please check your “spam” folder as this is where emails often end up.

    We have a phone you can call to talk to a live person at 877-691-3328 or you can email me at matt at getrapidhelp.com (replace the at with the @ sign).

    But no need — I’ve notified them and they’ll call you and make sure you can get access.

    I so appreciate your business

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Jim Hitching

It does seem encouraging and not the work of a blowhard and the price is by no means greedy

Rusty

I really need this … thx so much

Bud

I have found all of what you share to be incredibly informative and fascinating. You keep sending me back to the basics of love making and telling me she is a person first, woman second and my woman most of all.

    Matt Cook

    Thank you Bud. I’m so excited for what we are all doing here. It’s not me. I have little to do with it. It’s that men are waking up to what’s been happening to them, are becoming conscious about choices rather than being slaves to drug companies and hormones.

    It’s really cool!

    warmly

    –Matt

geo

Hi Matt,
Thank you for all your emails. I would love to find out a proper way to maintain sex satisfaction in relationships in general.
Hope to get your next e-mail on it soon.

Steve

My wife and I have been married 27 yrs. She is 10 yrs younger then I am. We had a great sex life until we both had back surgery about 1 1/2 yrs apart about 10 yrs ago. For the next 8 yrs sex was nowhere near the top of her list. The last couple yrs we have gotten back to really enjoying each other again, the only problem is she is getting tired of the same old positions over and over again. After three back surgeries there are only so many ways I can bend, if you know what I mean. Any suggestions???

Del

You’ve certainly got my attention!! I’m married to a woman I love and desire as much now as the day we got together. She’s 12 years younger than me and lost interest in sex after our second child was born. She also has the notion that as you get older sex shouldn’t feature in your life anymore as its just for younger couples which I find very odd!! Struggling to get her out of this mindset!!

Jon

Great points, Matt. I have tried a lot of what you write about in your article and you’re right, it didn’t work for very long. Now we’re back in the same boat. I’m thinking she may e having an affair. But maybe it’s partly my fault. I want to know how to fix this problem. Please write some more.

ISAAC LEMONIDES

SO TRUE MATT

I WANT TO KNOW HOW TO WAKE UP MY WOMAN. I DONT WANT SOMEONE ELSE. I WANT HER. BUT WE HAVENT HAD SEX IN OVER 11 MONTS

Michael

how do I get hard and stay hard? Thats my problem right now. Don’t a lot of other guys have this problem? I see the ads on tv so I know they do. Id love some help in that department. Thanks Matt

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