Be honest with her if you aren’t performing
This is my response to “Peter” who I spoke to a few days ago.
Here’s what Peter said to me:
“Matt, I just don’t want to go out with this woman. What if she wants to go back to my place?
“I can’t take that embarrassment and failure again”
What should I do? I want to meet women but I can’t stand the idea of having things fail again.”
So I want to answer you here, Peter. And first I want to put a very suggestive sexy photo here. Just to get your attention. BUT warning: if you are recovering from porn or whatnot, do NOT look at the photo, just skip over it with your eyes and read on
Okay…let’s start with the photo of a beautiful sexy woman for no particular reason:
And with this photo, remember this:
She’s also worried about performing with you!
Yes, women also have their worries and anxieties about having sex with YOU.
Sure, she doesn’t have to get it up, but neither do you.
You don’t need to, you know.
You can take it slower. And build up the hormone Oxytocin in your brain and hers. Oxytocin makes great erections and lowers the time from one ejaculation to the next.
Oxytocin makes you dig the other person, but not in a needy hungry way. So if you and she aren’t right for each other, it will be a mutual friendly decision and you can still maintain a friendship. Maybe even FWB if you both want that.
No drama.
You can give Oxytocin a chance to build up in your brain. How? By doing some sleeping together without trying to stick it in. Just for example. And no oral or handjobs for now, either!
But Matt, she’ll toss me aside if I say I want to take it slow…
She’s horny and she’ll think there’s something wrong with me if I tell her I want to take it slow…
Yeah?
Well, so what.
If she wants to have sex immediately and she doesn’t want to get to know you a bit first, then perhaps at this moment in your life she isn’t a good match for you. At this stage, it should be about building up Oxytocin.
Because Oxytocin can bring back softer erections and make them hard. Plus, Oxytocin removes performance anxiety and pressure.
So you don’t need to perform when your Oxytocin levels are high. It’s all automatic and stress free.
But back to what I was saying about your lady. She is worried too.
Women sometimes worry they won’t get wet. Or they worry they won’t come. Not all women worry about this all the time, but many women worry about this more often than you’d think.
(If we could just all get off like animals, we wouldn’t have all this brain stuff here and there, and it would be much easier? It’s the curse of Man and Woman, that we have brains to think with when it comes time to have sex.)
But what…
If you are following my recovery method, what do you tell her in the meantime?
You can as I see it, either conceal or reveal. But let me tell you a secret.
Women admire a man who has confidence.
And the confidence can be, “I’m giving my willie a rest. We can cuddle tonight, I’d love to do that, but sex is off the table for me during this time.”
Hey, how about that?
A breath of fresh air, no?
But Matt, won’t she think I’m some sort of wuss if I tell her that?
Good women know men’s equipment isn’t always functioning tippy top. Good women know men bear the incredible burden God gave men of not having say over whether their willie gets hard, or doesn’t. Women know men have that burden.
And great women know that
You have to be brave to be a real man with a penis
I’ve had my woman tell me that routinely. “Matt,” she’ll say. “I don’t know how you men do it. I’d hate to have to perform all the time. At least I can fake it now and then.”
LOL.
So ask yourself, do you want to go to bed with a girl who doesn’t care about you, and who just demands satisfaction?
I’d throw her over the side in a heartbeat if she isn’t on board with what my willie is or isn’t doing at the moment…
Next!
Who has time or patience for that bullshit? A confident guy just moves to the next girl. Her loss.
Because there will be plenty of nice fun sexy times, plenty. You’ll see yourself through this even if it’s gone on for years, even decades.
But for gosh sakes, get your partner on your side. My system of recovery is so much easier if you have a girl to go to bed with, someone you care for who cares about you.
Yes try to be honest and discover how much better life is.
You’ll find that your life works a whole lot better when you’re not trying to erect a fake front (pun intended) and you just are honest.
It actually shows a SUPER confident man who can man up to a girl about a temporary dick problem. Even a temporary dick problem that has gone on for a long time. Hey, at least you’re getting the problem fixed.
A real man fixes a problem and a great woman loves a man like that. She’ll dig on you and be even hornier for you when the time comes.
Try it this way.
And if you haven’t already, I’m extending this webinar for one more time, go here and make sure you have registered. Click here for more.
Feel free to leave YOUR experiences with women — telling them or not telling them. What happened? What did you do? What was the result? Please share below. Thank you
warmly
Be honest with her if you aren’t performing
This is my response to “Peter” who I spoke to a few days ago.
Here’s what Peter said to me:
“Matt, I just don’t want to go out with this woman. What if she wants to go back to my place?
“I can’t take that embarrassment and failure again”
What should I do? I want to meet women but I can’t stand the idea of having things fail again.”
So I want to answer you here, Peter. And first I want to put a very suggestive sexy photo here. Just to get your attention. BUT warning: if you are recovering from porn or whatnot, do NOT look at the photo, just skip over it with your eyes and read on
Okay…let’s start with the photo of a beautiful sexy woman for no particular reason:
And with this photo, remember this:
She’s also worried about performing with you!
Yes, women also have their worries and anxieties about having sex with YOU.
Sure, she doesn’t have to get it up, but neither do you.
You don’t need to, you know.
You can take it slower. And build up the hormone Oxytocin in your brain and hers. Oxytocin makes great erections and lowers the time from one ejaculation to the next.
Oxytocin makes you dig the other person, but not in a needy hungry way. So if you and she aren’t right for each other, it will be a mutual friendly decision and you can still maintain a friendship. Maybe even FWB if you both want that.
No drama.
You can give Oxytocin a chance to build up in your brain. How? By doing some sleeping together without trying to stick it in. Just for example. And no oral or handjobs for now, either!
But Matt, she’ll toss me aside if I say I want to take it slow…
She’s horny and she’ll think there’s something wrong with me if I tell her I want to take it slow…
Yeah?
Well, so what.
If she wants to have sex immediately and she doesn’t want to get to know you a bit first, then perhaps at this moment in your life she isn’t a good match for you. At this stage, it should be about building up Oxytocin.
Because Oxytocin can bring back softer erections and make them hard. Plus, Oxytocin removes performance anxiety and pressure.
So you don’t need to perform when your Oxytocin levels are high. It’s all automatic and stress free.
But back to what I was saying about your lady. She is worried too.
Women sometimes worry they won’t get wet. Or they worry they won’t come. Not all women worry about this all the time, but many women worry about this more often than you’d think.
(If we could just all get off like animals, we wouldn’t have all this brain stuff here and there, and it would be much easier? It’s the curse of Man and Woman, that we have brains to think with when it comes time to have sex.)
But what…
If you are following my recovery method, what do you tell her in the meantime?
You can as I see it, either conceal or reveal. But let me tell you a secret.
Women admire a man who has confidence.
And the confidence can be, “I’m giving my willie a rest. We can cuddle tonight, I’d love to do that, but sex is off the table for me during this time.”
Hey, how about that?
A breath of fresh air, no?
But Matt, won’t she think I’m some sort of wuss if I tell her that?
Good women know men’s equipment isn’t always functioning tippy top. Good women know men bear the incredible burden God gave men of not having say over whether their willie gets hard, or doesn’t. Women know men have that burden.
And great women know that
You have to be brave to be a real man with a penis
I’ve had my woman tell me that routinely. “Matt,” she’ll say. “I don’t know how you men do it. I’d hate to have to perform all the time. At least I can fake it now and then.”
LOL.
So ask yourself, do you want to go to bed with a girl who doesn’t care about you, and who just demands satisfaction?
I’d throw her over the side in a heartbeat if she isn’t on board with what my willie is or isn’t doing at the moment…
Next!
Who has time or patience for that bullshit? A confident guy just moves to the next girl. Her loss.
Because there will be plenty of nice fun sexy times, plenty. You’ll see yourself through this even if it’s gone on for years, even decades.
But for gosh sakes, get your partner on your side. My system of recovery is so much easier if you have a girl to go to bed with, someone you care for who cares about you.
Yes try to be honest and discover how much better life is.
You’ll find that your life works a whole lot better when you’re not trying to erect a fake front (pun intended) and you just are honest.
It actually shows a SUPER confident man who can man up to a girl about a temporary dick problem. Even a temporary dick problem that has gone on for a long time. Hey, at least you’re getting the problem fixed.
A real man fixes a problem and a great woman loves a man like that. She’ll dig on you and be even hornier for you when the time comes.
Try it this way.
And if you haven’t already, I’m extending this webinar for one more time, go here and make sure you have registered. Click here for more.
Feel free to leave YOUR experiences with women — telling them or not telling them. What happened? What did you do? What was the result? Please share below. Thank you
warmly
Is good sex possible with the same life partner?
When Linda got to around age 38 or so, she stopped having orgasms mostly. Dan and Linda met at college and got married when he was in graduate school and she was out in the workplace.
Now, 17 years later, their sex was like this.
About once a week, they would lay down and Dan would use oral with her and then he’d penetrate her and come and then he’d roll off her and go to sleep.
It wasn’t Dan’s fault but he really didn’t give this much thought. He was very busy as a high powered law partner and didn’t have a lot of time or attention he directed to sex.
This is strange, even to Dan. “Matt, I never paid attention to it. I assumed things just decline as you get older together.”
And this isn’t unusual. But now that I’m in the life’s work of helping men with sexual improvement…I wonder…
Why does a man put years of study into work, but hardly pay attention to studying better sex?
I’m a believer in improvement. In process. In making things better and better.
Dan went to four years of college and three years of law school. He struggled through school and paid over $200,000 for his education.
Then he spent years toiling as a low paid “associate” at a law firm, working 80 or 90 hours a week and never having a weekend off.
But for his sex life, Dan didn’t pay any attention at all. He just coasted along.
It is true that sex is an animalistic activity, but so is eating.
I love eating but I don’t eat to live.
I spend time preparing good meals.
Yesterday, I ate grass fed burgers with beef I ground myself. I smoked it in an outdoor smoker.
I ate a fresh kale salad with butternut squash chunks and toasted walnuts and the highest quality parmesan cheese.
Eating is an animal act but I eat well.
Don’t you have things in your life you really care about?
Don’t you study those things and build up your knowledge around them?
And I think sex deserves that kind of attention too, don’t you?
But how do you wake up a sleeping sex life?
But ask Linda what happened to their sex life?
“I don’t know why, but I’m not that interested anymore. I think about sex and I like sex, sure. But it isn’t on the top of the list anymore.”
That’s what Linda says.
Sex is how we are built. We are built to have sex all the time with our partner.
How do I know this?
Almost all animals have “estrus” where the female is ready and wants sex.
But humans don’t work that way. Women can have sex pretty much any time. But the crucial problem is they lose interest…so the question is
Why do women lose interest in sex?
Sex the way men do it isn’t so hot for women. Just look at how the penis is designed. The penis provides men with loads of sensation with simple manual stimulation especially at the tip.
But women have a very different make-up of their pleasure places. They have the clitoris, the A-spot, the G-spot, the vagina, outside the vagina.
It isn’t this simple, but sex does become kind of boring for women after awhile with the same partner.
Part of the reason for this is that men don’t know how to really satisfy a woman and women won’t tell men.
Linda doesn’t know why she is not that interested in sex. But the top of the list has to be, it has become boring for her.
The usual media answer is “new new new.”
New positions.
New toys.
New lingerie.
New games.
But if you’ve tried this you know how…
New quickly becomes old.
Then you’re left with the same partner and the same issues.
New becomes old. New isn’t the answer to a sex life that can last the rest of your life and be exciting.
Is that even possible to have a fulfilling sex life with the same partner for years or decades?
I was fortunate enough to have found some answers to this problem.
Sex was boring and almost a duty before for me. But now, it is very different.
I didn’t discover anything new. I discovered something old. Very old.
It started when I stumbled on a few guys online had found out the truth…an almost secret group of guys who had solved this problem using some new scientific discoveries and some stuff that comes out of the ancient Chinese and Indian literature.
The Tao and Tantric scholars figured this out to a great extent centuries ago.
I’m out of time…I’ll continue writing on this tomorrow. Please do your part. Leave a comment or question here. Thank you!