The three under reported causes of anxiety depression you probably haven’t heard enough about:
1. Being alone too much
2. Being connected online too much
3. Trying to fight the depression and anxiety with self-talk
Being alone too much
This one is huge. When you are alone too much, you lose the most important thing to a human being. You lose the sense of connection.
Connection builds up Oxytocin. There is no way to be happy without high Oxytocin.
When you increase your Oxytocin, you feel happier. Anxiety leaks out like air from a balloon. And you have a sense of fulfillment in your life rather than a sense of not having enough.
Being connected online too much
This is a huge problem. Studies show that the more time you spend on Facebook, texting, Instagram, and so forth, the more anxiety you develop.
There is a strong link between spending time online and anxiety and depression.
The reasons are several.
First of all, let’s say you spend time on Facebook. Almost all the posts your “friends” make are like this one:
Cute, right?? But you don’t hear the arguments, the bickering, the bad stuff that are normally a part of every life. Facebook is all about people telling the world about their accomplishments so they feel better about themselves. I have nothing against Facebook but spending time on it makes most folks feel shitty about their own lives.
It’s life’s highlight reel, when you and I are seeing what goes on behind-the-scenes in OUR lives. We compare what we know about our lives, to the highlight reel on other people’s lives, and we feel like crap.
Also, the time spent online increases dopamine. It’s a click-click-click see-what’s-next activity that wires our brain to novelty instead of to fulfillment.
That click-click-click is VERY depressing and causes a lot of anxiety.
Fighting anxiety with self-talk
This is really what gets us down.
“Why am I feeling like this?”
“I shouldn’t feel this way.”
“Why am I always feeling shitty?”
The more we fight the anxiety or depression, the worse we get.
Resist and it persists.
What fixes this, is getting over any kind of ED issues, and that means connecting with a woman. Connection even without sex builds up Oxytocin.
Oxytocin is THE most powerful way to feel relaxed and happy and fulfilled. Then erections will follow.